Monday, June 04, 2007

The Why's of Men

Yup, I felt like posting another funny post... it just made me chuckle... enjoy ;)

1. WHY DO MEN BECOME SMARTER DURING SEX?

Because they are plugged into a genius.

2. WHY DON'T WOMEN BLINK DURING SEX?

They don't have enough time.

3. WHY DOES IT TAKE 1 MILLION SPERM TO FERTILIZE ONE EGG?

They don't stop to ask directions.

4. WHY DO MEN SNORE WHEN THEY LIE ON THEIR BACKS?

Because their balls fall over their butt-hole and they vapor lock...

(You're laughing, aren't you?!?!)

5. WHY WERE MEN GIVEN LARGER BRAINS THAN DOGS?

So they won't hump women's legs at cocktails parties.

6. WHY DID GOD MAKE MEN BEFORE WOMEN?

You need a rough draft before you make a final copy.

7. HOW MANY MEN DOES IT TAKE TO PUT A TOILET SEAT DOWN?

Don't know... it's never happened...

C'mon guys, we laugh at your blonde jokes!

And the personal favorite:

8. WHY DID GOD PUT MEN ON EARTH?

Because a vibrator can't mow the lawn

Remember, if you haven't got a smile on your face and laughter in your heart...Then you are just an old sour fart.

;)

Monday, May 28, 2007

Clever maths :)

1. First of all, pick the number of times a week that you would like to go out to eat (more than once but less than 10)
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2. Multiply this number by 2 (just to be bold)
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3. Add 5
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4. Multiply it by 50
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5. If you have already had your birthday this year add 1757...If you haven't, add 1756.
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6. Now subtract the four digit year that you were born.
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You should have a three digit number.
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The first digit of this was your original number. (I.e., How many times you want to go out to restaurants in a week.)
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The next two numbers are ...
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*grinssssss*
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YOUR AGE ! ------ (Oh YES, it is!!!)
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This will only work in 2007, so go amaze your friends!!

Monday, May 21, 2007

Submissive Owner's Manual

I came across something today and I want to share it with you all.

It really made me stop and think, it made me evaluate myself as a Domme, and my relationships.

Sometimes our path gets a little over grown, making it difficult to see the right path to take. Today, this made me stop, think, learn, discover something new in myself. What is more, it reminded me of the need to control those weeds, pesky things; they can so easily ruin a good garden!

While this is titled the submissives owner's manual, serveral of the points are true to both sides in my opinion, at the end of the day sub or Domme, we are all human, we all make mistakes, we need to know that they are not seen as a sign of failure, but accpeted for what they are, mistakes, to be learnt from and moved on from.

Submissive Owner's Manual

I need to feel safe. Before I can begin to open my submissive nature to You I need to feel safe and have reason to trust You. To let down my walls and give You control of my will may take time and testing before I feel safe enough to permit either of us to go beyond the initial stages of our relationship. Even after I've given myself to You fully, I need to be reminded I am safe with You. I may like to feel the thrill and excitement of fear and the unknown, but I need to be sure no matter how You stimulate those emotions during an intense scene or situation, I will remain safe in Your care.

I need to know You accept me for all I am. I will be many things to You as our relationship grows and I need to know You accept me as a person during each transition along the way. I need to know You accept me as a friend, lover, companion, and Your submissive but also accept me as parent, child, employee, community member or other roles I fill in my obligations to family or society.

I need to have clearly defined limits. I need to know exactly what You expect of me and know that You also understand my limits. In some ways I am like a child that needs a fence around my play area so I know how far I can go and feel secure inside those limits. I need You to reinforce those fences by correcting me when I try to climb them without Your approval.

I need You to be consistent. I need to know You mean what You say and that today's rules will apply to tomorrow's behavior. Nothing confuses me more than giving me mixed signals by allowing me to break rules that You've given me. From time to time I may test You to see if You are capable of accepting control of my life by consistently bringing me back to the path You've chosen for me. It's not done to try Your patience but is my way of finding reassurance You are paying attention to my progress. Very often it's not done consciously and I promise I'll not use it as a method for provoking Your negative responses.

I need to expand my limits. I need to grow and to be challenged. Left on my own, I'll become bored or stagnate within the boundaries I accepted in the beginning. I need to be pushed, but never shoved, to go beyond the places I've been. I may drag my feet and pout at times, or sit down and refuse to move because I'm unsure and need Your guidance in overcoming my obstacles. I depend on You for strength and encouragement to get beyond them.

I need You to teach me. I need to learn and it is You who are my teacher. My mind is hungry for new things and learning helps me to become all that I can be. This may require You to continue to learn new things in order to keep me challenged. Together we can grow to the fullness of the gifts we have and deepen the diversity we share.

I need goals. Part of my make-up as a submissive makes me very goal-oriented. I need them to measure my progress and need You to provide them for me. Take time to explain those goals in ways I can comprehend Your plans concerning my growth as Your submissive. Without Your direction I quickly become lost so I'll look to You frequently to provide a purpose and aim as I continue in my development as a submissive.

I need to be corrected. I need You to correct me when I make mistakes. Without Your correction I will develop bad habits that can be very difficult to break and do great damage to our relationship and to us as individuals. Without Your correction, I may never know I've made a mistake. Allowing me to continue unchecked will only cause me to fail both of us in the end. I admire firmness in Your correction and feel secure in knowing that You will never be afraid to take steps needed in keeping me focused on the goals You've set for me.

I need You to be my role-model. I look up to You and try to follow in Your footsteps. If You fail to live up to a standard, I will follow You into failure, often without You noticing until it is too late. I learn quickly by the examples You provide for me and often base my reactions and behaviors on my observations of You in similar situations. I will blindly pattern myself in Your image so be aware that my eyes will always be on You as face Your own challenges and daily activities.

I need Your approval and reassurance. I need to know when You approve of me or what I've done and to know I belong to You even if I fall short of my goals. I sometimes confuse approval with disapproval when You do not provide positive reinforcement when You are pleased by my actions. I will constantly be seeking Your approval when I'm unsure of myself and may need to rely deeply on Your support and reassurance when I'm confused about a situation or apprehensive about a new challenge.

I need to be able to express myself. I have a need to express both good and bad things to You but it may be difficult for me to put the negative things into words. I fear Your rejection and hate disappointing You, so I may need a little space and time to voice all the things I need to say. You can help me by reassuring me that my feelings are valid, even if they aren't something You find pleasure in hearing. There may be times when I'm upset or angry with You but without freedom to express those feelings there can be only festering resentment or misunderstanding. Guide me in ways that I can learn to speak my heart without breaking it or Yours.

I need to learn from my mistakes. I need to experience things that may be painful in order to learn successfully. I know Your protective nature will struggle with allowing me to be hurt but I need to learn the consequences of what I've done and to experience the feelings that go along with making mistakes. I will need Your comfort once I've faced my failure but will sometimes feel unworthy of asking or unable to voice my disappointment in failing. Allow me to sort out my feelings before wiping away my tears.

I need forgiveness when I fail You. Nothing hurts me more than to know I've failed or displeased You and I need to be forgiven once I've made amends. It is very hard for me to forgive myself for a wrong-doing and I may need Your help in getting beyond the feelings of remorse I am carrying. I may even need to be punished, if my wrong-doing was traumatic enough, in order to feel closure and accept forgiveness. I depend on You to make that determination for me and need Your help in making an atonement that is acceptable to You.

I need to feel I contribute. I have a deep-set need to give and must have outlets for this need. My basic nature is to give of myself and You will be the primary recipient of my gifts. Allow me to contribute to our relationship and our life together. To do less will leave me unfulfilled and unneeded, a fate worse than death for me. Provide me with ways to contribute things to others, also. I may need to give of myself to those I hold dear but You will always receive the best I have to offer.

I need to enjoy successes. Without experiencing and enjoying my successes I may give up my fight to be all You desire for me. Allow me the pleasure of savoring the taste of victory when I overcome an obstacle or if You find pride in my attempts. All of my successes belong to You and I need to share their rewards with You. I don't expect You to spoil me with grand displays for little victories, but when I've reached beyond the limits of my past attempts, please don't deny me the sweet feelings of knowing I've achieved a goal You've set.

I need to share with You. Sharing with You is a compelling need and one of the cornerstones of my submissive nature. This includes the emotional and spiritual aspects of my being as well as the physical body I inhabit. It may be difficult for me to give You access to the deeper levels of my emotions and feelings but those are the things I need to share the most. I'll depend on You to direct me in ways I can achieve total openness with You. I also need to share in the things You are. Trust me enough to share in Your fears, failures and struggles. I'll never see You as weak or incapable because You have shown confidence in me by giving part of Yourself in trust.

I need to feel loved, respected, and protected in Your ownership. No matter how well I've done or how miserably I've failed, I need to know I'm still loved and protected by You. Nothing will prevent me from trying new things like fear of losing Your respect and love. By the reverse, nothing will encourage me to expand my limits and grow to be all I am capable of being more than knowing You will be there to protect me from harm and will love me even if I fall short of the target. I need to be loved and to love You in return. I can't survive without it.

Monday, March 12, 2007

The Manogram!


'If Women Controlled The World'
*chuckles*
That was the tile of an email my Mother in Law sent me, if only she knew *grinsssssss* This pic in it really made me laugh!!
Now... whos first!? *rubs my hands and grins*

Saturday, March 10, 2007

The things that shape us.

I read a blog the other day that hit a cord with me, for many different reasons, and I have spend some time mulling it over as I tend to do. The timing is kind of spooky, and I had been mulling of old ghosts recently too.

To quote a paragraph of the blog "I spent all of my childhood being told to shut up. Being told that my opinions were worthless. Being made to feel useless. So much so that I became very introverted and unable to express how I was feeling. It's so ingrained into my brain that I start to believe it myself. I find it hard to feel loved; I just don't feel worthy of it. I find if something becomes difficult it's easier for me to turn and run or clam up than it is to face it head on and admit to my own weaknesses. It's stupid, I know it is and it is something I very much need to overcome. I don't want to push you away but there will be times when I will. It's a defence mechanism to stop myself from getting hurt."

I have always been interested in people’s minds, how they think, how they feel and why they do. They say memories are important, and that our childhood moulds us. I believe this is very true, I also believe that everything happens for a reason, we just don’t always know what that may be at the time it happens. Often we don’t see much past where we are to be able to see how to grow and learn from what you are going through. I posted a while back on how words can effect us too (Words) How people treat us in life not just as, but especially when we are children, can have a profound effect on us.

Where is all this going... well I don’t know, like I said I have been mulling things over and this is a self indulgent blog, me just rambling away. I like to write it's one way I found to get my thoughts and emotions worked through, but I have also been watching someone grown, more than they even realise, and it’s wonderful to see.

I am no different to anyone out there, we all have baggage, me included. Some of us just carry heavier bags than the rest. What is important to me is not the weight of them, but how we learn not to let it continue to cause us emotional and mental damage and drag us down. Learning to lock them away where they belong is all part of how we move on, but just how do we do that, when they can so easily change how we feel, one little word, one small action and memories can come flooding back that cause us to falter, even on our strongest days. Yes I am Domme, but I am human and vulnerable to, just like everyone is, and yes, I have been down this road, I do understand about self doubt, and insecurities.

One thing I do know is that I would not wish to change the things I have been though in my life, simply because in doing so I would not be me, the person I am today, nor would I be where I am either. Don't get me wrong, there were times in my life I never thought today, and feeling as happy and content with life as I do would ever be possible. But you know, the mind has a clever way of somehow allowing some of those memories to fade, they are always there, but when I look back or talk about it, its like it was someone else, not me. Having the ride though life I have had helps me to understand how people think, how things can effect one person and not another, how important positive re-enforcement is, especially as a Domme. It’s not all about pulling someone up when they make mistakes, but telling them when they have done things to make you proud, things that may not always be easy, sometimes things they may not even notice themselves changing.

Of course, the damage done takes a long time to undo, changing habits of a lifetime always does. Often when faced with a situation they are not sure about, it is easy to clam up, to beat yourself up, expect the worst... after all... why would anyone love you? In expecting the worst, in telling themselves these things, they hope to protect themselves from more hurt, so up go the defences... locking the people who care firmly out for a while. It can take a lot of patience and gentle encouragement to be allowed back in. Therefore when someone allows their defences down and lets another in when they have always kept people at arms length is never easy, so I do recognise how much someone has grown within themselves when they do that with me.

I have watched him sit and talk things through with me, when I know he thinks the worst, or wants to run. It shows a man who is prepared to listen and learn, a person who has come a long way in a short space of time, and that in itself can feel unsettling. That is what make me so proud of you.

Our past does shape us, and when we hit new ground it is always approached with caution, but it is also the place we often manage to dump some of our baggage and move on with a lighter load, if we don't life will eventually bog us down where we stand. I firmly believe in looking forward in life but, just now and again, we should look back and see how far we have come, and how much baggage we have lost along the way.

Friday, March 09, 2007

Voices...

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Thursday, March 08, 2007

Songs

I came across this song the other day Blues Traveller - Yours

While there are a few lyrics that puzzle me, on the whole I like the song, the first time I heard it it sent shivers down my spine, it has so much feeling in it.

you are mine, all mine ;) what more is there to say.


Yours

You, with your hand outstretched
Finger on the key
This lock that you release
Is opening but isn't free
And i hope that you can see
How it beats inside of me
Instead of pushing fear aside
I want to run I want to hide
I am vulnerably yours

She, who is wanting me
Whose touch can make me cry
I can only understand
By never asking her why
Hear the contradictions fly
And as hard as I may try
Every truth becomes a lie
In the ache of her reply
I am passionately...
Yours

And the saddest eyes are
Yours
And the softest skin is
Yours, Yours
So won't you let me in I'm yours
All that I begin is yours
Every prize I win is yours
At your feet again I'm yours
All I am is yours

All I am is wanting you
I've fallen down and I can't seem to come to
If I should die before I wake
I commend my soul into this ache
Up above the world so high
Where the water tends to meet the sky
She's all I'm after by the toe
And I won't let go...
And I wanted you to know
That if you reap what you would sew
I would take it blow by blow
All I am is...
Yours

And the softest skin is
Yours, Yours
And the hope I borrow is
Yours, Yours
So won't you let me in i'm yours
All that I begin is yours
Every prize I win is yours
At your feet again I'm yours
All I am is yours
Yours

Wednesday, March 07, 2007

My Pledge as a Mistress

When I take on a submissive, I make a pledge to myself and to them.

They offer themselves to me, mind, body, soul and emotions.

In retrun I pledge...

To cherish you, not only as my submissive, but as the warm, caring, intelligent sensitive man that you are.

I shall never intentionally harm you, and although I know, I am not perfect, I shall try to act wisely in all things.

If I make a mistake, then I will admit it, and learn from it.

I shall continually strive to guide you and teach you to help you and support you, as you make the difficult decisions, which precede growth.

I will be patient, as you grow, knowing that all things take time and change often does not come easily. But even in my patience, I shall continually push you forward and not allow you to fall backwards. If in anything you do fall, I shall be there to catch you, hold you, comfort you, support you and then place you back on track.

If I ever lose my temper, I shall step back from that situation until I regain control, then deal with what has occurred. I will not speak in anger, nor will I act irrationally or hastily, you shall always have the opportunity to explain what has happened, before I decide what must be done, then my actions will always be based on correcting you, not punishing you.

I will continue to build trust, being open and honest with you, always encouraging you and never belittling you, always having in interest in all of your life.

I shall always communicate with you, even when it may not be easy for me, showing both my strengths and weaknesses, being open and honest.

The energy flow is like Yin and Yang, you are submissive, I am dominant, two sides of the same coin, one by itself is worthless, so while we have very different roles, we are both important.

I will treasure you, knowing without you, I have no more than an unfulfilled desire.

Monday, February 12, 2007

WakTheSak

I dont post links often, but I had fun today with this one!!

Clink here for a laugh

I love the sound effects!!

My High Score?

465 and rising ;)

The Three Stages of Denial

Tease and denial... Mmmmmmmm delightful!

There are three very distinct “stages” of denial that a sub experiences.

Need, Ache, and Frustration.

I love the word “need” although I don’t think it ever truly applies, though it has been very convincingly argued by some I respect quite well that it in fact DOES. I have heard the plea... 'But Mistress, you don't know what it feels like, you don't understand, I NEEEEED to cum' often. My boys have told me that there is a certain physical “need” that undeniably exists. However they endure it because they know it brings me pleasure. I guess this is where the “anything”, would come into play. I mean if you really “NEED” something, especially on a cellular level then I imagine that you would do anything to satisfy that need. Especially if being manipulated by a skilled wickedly playful force.

The sub may plead the need to cum, but actually they don't need it like they need, for example, to piss. Of course, the feeling of psychological need can be honed to almost any level by a skilled Domme. But the sub's pleas that he'll do anything are of course exaggerations. The fun comes when the Domme sees just how far the sub is really willing to go, and then goes a little further… Oh the fun!

I don’t have the equipment to truly understand the “Need” but I understand enough about the body to know that as time goes on there is a build up, and like any pressure, it will need to be released, but just when will I let that “need” be fulfilled?

Next, because of that build up, comes the ache. Oh how I LOVE the concept of aching. The word itself conjures up some every yummy feelings inside me. I like the thought of my boys carrying around a pair of overly sensitive full balls, and a cock that will throb at the slightest tease from me, reminding them that I am very much in control of their pleasure. I chuckle when I hear them tell me 'Oh God Mistress it HURTS!' That gets me all tingly, along with sweet whimpers, moans and begging. There is something so erotically powerful in the words “I thought you’d like to know I’m REALLY feeling it today.” or "I am so horny" followed by begging.

Then we come to frustration. I think this one is the most volatile. It can go from funny and sexy to total hell in less time than it takes to say you may cum. I must admit though my sadistic side seems to REALLY enjoy this part. I LOVE fucking with people minds. Making them all squirmy and sexually frustrated, but that is the only frustration I really enjoy. However like I say, it can flip from fun to hell all to quickly, so knowing my boys well always helps me to know just how far to push, each time pushing a fraction more, not enough to flip the fun, but enough to slowly take them deeper into the whole experience.

For me it's all about the ache, the leaking, the frustration, the desperation, and the begging. I LOVE the pleading and begging, so sexy, so erotic, so powerful, almost nothing gets me wetter, especially if they are knelt in front of me, open, venerable and on display. I enjoy the submission that denail can bring out in a boy.

And of course, the end result that moment when they are allowed release all that is forgotten as they hit that headspace that sends them reeling in pleasure. “Earth calling slut, earth calling slut, come in slut”

Friday, January 19, 2007

Soulmates

Some one shared a quote by Richard Bach with me today...

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”

Those words really stuck a cord with me.

What still amazes me is how, even if someone is a world away from you, you can still connect with them... feel them, sense them, just know they are there for you when you need them, as you are when they need you. I found you, mine :) My soulmate.

May you all find your soulmates.

Tuesday, January 09, 2007

New Year!

Well hello my readers, its been a while, hope you are all well enjoying the New Year...

Its been a wonderful start for me thanks to someone very special :)

I plan to write more often now as I finally have a new PC!! Yeah!!

So what to write *grins* yeah, yeah, part two I know, I know... maybe, if you are lucky!!

*winks*