How many times have I heard men say its not fair us women can be multi orgasmic. Well guys, guess what? You can too!
There are many ways a man can achieve orgasm, stroking, head stimulation, prostate stimulation, just to name a few. They can orgasm without cumming and cum with out an orgasm.
One of the primary premises of Tantric sexual practices is that men have the ability to be multi-orgasmic and that the ability to harness this orgasmic power can vastly improve their health, their lovemaking, and their ability for intimacy.
Over three thousand years ago, the Chinese recognized that men can achieve multiple orgasms by delaying and even withholding ejaculation. This is possible because orgasm and ejaculation are two distinct physical processes, although they have long been equated in the West. In the 1940s pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey reported similar discoveries. Yet even several decades later, after his claims have been proved repeatedly in the laboratory, most men remain unaware of their multi-orgasmic potential. Without this knowledge and without a clear technique, men are unable to feel the difference between the crescendo of orgasm and the crash of ejaculation.... Male sexuality in the West remains incorrectly focused on the inevitably disappointing goal of ejaculation ("getting off") instead of the orgasmic process of lovemaking.
In Kinseys own words...
"You may already have experienced multiple orgasms. Surprising as this may sound, many men are multi-orgasmic before they enter adolescence and begin to ejaculate. Kinsey's research suggested that more than half of all preadolescent boys were able to reach a second orgasm within a short period of time and nearly a third were able to achieve five or more orgasms one after the other. This led Kinsey to argue that "climax is clearly possible without ejaculation"
But multiple orgasms are not just limited to prepubescent boys. Kinsey continues: "There are older males, even in their thirties and older, who are able to equal this performance." In Fundamentals of Human Sexuality, Dr. Herant Katchadourian adds: "Some men are able to inhibit the emission of semen while they experience the orgasmic contractions: in other words they have nonejaculatory orgasms. Such orgasms do not seem to be followed by a refractory period [loss of erection], thereby allowing these men to have consecutive or multiple orgasms like women."
Why do most men lose their ability to be multi-orgasmic? It is possible that for many men the experience of ejaculating, when it happens, is so overwhelming that it eclipses the experience of orgasm and causes men to lose the ability to distinguish between the two. One multi-orgasmic man described the first time he ejaculated: "I still remember it clearly. There I was orgasming as usual, but this time a white liquid came spurting out. I thought I was dying. I swore to God that I would never masturbate again -- which of course lasted about a day." Since orgasm and ejaculation generally occur within seconds of one another, it is easy to confuse them. To become multi-orgasmic, you must learn (or possibly relearn) the ability to separate the different sensations of arousal and to revel in orgasm without cresting over into ejaculation. Understanding how orgasm and ejaculation are different will help you distinguish the two in your own body."
The idea behind male multi orgasms is the belief that orgasm and ejaculation are two different processes, but have become associated as one thing, so you need to re learn the feelings.
Orgasm is one of the most intense and satisfying human experiences, and if you have ever had an orgasm,and almost all men have, you will not need to have it defined. All orgasms, however, are not created equal. Orgasm is slightly different for each person and even different for the same person at different times. Nonetheless, men's orgasms share certain characteristics, including rhythmic body movements, increased heart rate, muscle tension, and then a sudden release of tension, including pelvic contractions. They feel good, too!
A lot of men are freaked out by the very idea of nonejaculatory orgasm because they've been having ejaculatory sex for such a long time, often decades. So the first thing to do is demystify ejaculation, which is just an involuntary muscle spasm.
With practice, you can learn to experience the peak feeling of orgasm without triggering the reflex of ejaculation.
So, men, you CAN be multi orgasmic ;)
Monday, September 25, 2006
Thursday, August 17, 2006
'Shower Time' - a story by Dream
Sean woke, rubbed his eyes sleepy, and then remembered where he was. Sean felt his heart race, and his cock stir a little at the memory. Massaging his still aching jaw. He rolled over he saw a note propped on a tray beside his bed. Sitting up he took a closer look. On the tray were a glass of water, and some cold toast. He picked up the water and sipped it reading the note.
“You will take a shower, clean yourself up and be waiting for me” Was all it said.
Sean glanced round the room, and noticed a door ajar, leading to a shower and toilet. Placing the glass back down he went in, looking forward to a nice warm shower. He was still feeling somewhat sore and stiff from being tied to the bed yesterday, and he could smell the scents of yesterday on himself too.
Sean had been in the shower for about 15 minutes and was starting to relax. The hot water felt delicious as it flowed down his body. Streams of water cascaded over his chest, teasing across his nipples mingling with the straight jets as they hit his body. He watched this for a while, the twisting torrent always changing as they danced against his skin. He was hypnotized by the water and didn't notice as her hands slipped past the shower curtain. Jade stroked his back and he jumped and let out a startled little scream. She was naked and stepped in behind Sean and joined him. She kissed his neck and placed her hands on his shoulders.
“Hand Me the shampoo.”
“Yes, Mistress Jade" Sean replied with the hint of a laugh now that he recovered from the "Psycho" entrance.
Jade took the shampoo and squeezed some onto his head and started to work it in with her fingers as he melted against her body. The feeling was luxurious and his whole body was tingling with the pleasure of the experience. Next she took the shower massage off its hanger and held it close to his head to rinse it off. She worked slowly taking her time and making sure that she had completely rinsed the suds out.
Feeling the stream so close to his head, moving in little circles, felt incredibly sensuous! She let it slowly massage over his shoulder as the subs rinsed away. Jade then replaced the showerhead up into its holder and reached for the conditioner. After squeezing a more than generous amount into her hands and started working it into his hair. She ran her fingers through his hair, massaging in it. She then moved him forward, away from the stream of water.
“Put your hands against the wall," She instructed him.
Leaning forward, he placed his hands on the wall, bending at the waist. Being out of the water made him feel a little cold. Cold and hot air currents hit different parts of his body giving him the start of goose bumps. Jade squeezed more of the slick conditioner into her hand. She rubbed it against the crack of his arse, moving her hand up and down, all the way to the base of his cock and back. Again and again she did this, watching him arch his back in pleasure as her slick fingers glided over his tight rosebud, the tickles his balls, and the base of his cock, making him purr in pleasure. Without warning, she slid her index finger into his pink arse and immediately felt the ring of muscles grip her finger. The suddenness made Sean gasp as her finger slid in and out easily with its coating of conditioner. She crooked her finger a little while she was slowly working it back and forth and Sean began to react from the pleasure of her finger as it worked against him, the nerves there being stimulated each time her knuckle worked in and out.
Jade was becoming aroused as well. She breathed softly into his ear and leaned closer against him, and Sean felt the hardness of the strapon he had not known she was wearing rubbing against him. She removed her finger and Sean let out a short, pouting whimper at the ending of that pleasure. He had been getting excited, and did not want it to stop, but knew that if he spoke a word at this point, it could end any hope for exquisite release. Jade squeezed out another handful of conditioner and stroked it over the rubber cock, coating it with the thick creamy stuff. She positioned the head of the cock against his tight opening. Sean knew what was about to happen and tried to relax. Placing a hand on each side of his hips, Jade began to push slowly into him.
He was pushed forward, his head sideways against the tile wall, pressing his cheek against the cool surface, hands on the wall on either side of his face, he gasped, biting his bottom lip softly. The head of her cock was still visible, being squeezed by his still unyielding muscles. Jade backed out, squeezing more of the conditioner directly onto the head of the cock and onto his puckered arsehole. Once again, holding his hips, Jade pushed in. This time she felt the head of the cock as made it past the tight opening, but the muscles gripped against it like a ring of steel. Feeling the cock work slowly up into his arse caused a delicious pain/pleasure to course through him. The cock seemed massive as it worked its way to the hilt. Sean let out a gasp by the time her groin touched the cheeks of his arse, trying to relax as the cock invaded and filled him. Jade did not pull the cock back but reached her hand around his hips until she could curl her fingers round his cock. With one hand flat against his stomach, she worked her other hand up and down and slowly teased his throbbing shaft, her thumb caressing over this cock head, her teasing made him whimper and purr with pleasure.
She rocked her hips but kept contact against his arse, Sean found himself rocking with her, his hips matching hers; he let out a soft moan, his cock twitching in her hand. The feeling was intense; his arse and cock being worked at the same time. Sean’s breathing became ragged as he once again started to reach climax. He was almost there when suddenly Jade stopped stroking his cock and quickly withdrew from him. The sudden departure left him feeling incredibly empty and trembling with passion.
"Turn around and kneel," Jade commanded.
Quickly he turns and drops to his knees before her, his hips rock softly as he settles on his knees before her, watching her as she starts soaping up the rubber cock, the suds running down her legs. Jade looks down at him squeaky-clean cock held in her hand. Spray from the shower making him squint as he kneels before her, his legs as far apart as he can get them, water running in rivers across his heated skin, and dripping off his cock as it twitches. She reaches down, grasps a handful of his wet hair, and forcefully pulls his head back.
"Open your mouth, my dear slut toy." She says with an evil glint. Sliding the tip of the cock back and forth over his lips, she laughs.
"Lets see what a good little cock sucker you are!" She says as she starts to slide the cock into his mouth. Her hips rocking back and forth as he sucks and laps desperately. His mouth forced wider as the cock starts to fill it. Her hands gripping his head keeping him close, Sean lets out a whimper as Jade drives it into his mouth with her thrusting hips, his own cock throbbing madly between his thighs, precum leaking from the tip and mixing with the water that’s cascading down their bodies. She arches her back, moaning at the site before her, watching Sean between her thighs. He works on the cock, taking it deep into his mouth sucking and lapping, squinting through the water up at her. Jades thrusts become harder, her breathing once again reflecting her growing excitement watching him work the cock. Letting go of his head she undoes the strapon, still watching him suck, then steps back and pulls it out of his mouth. Dropping the strapon on the floor she steps in closer again, pulling his head back towards her pussy.
"Open your mouth, my dear, and pleasure yourself, but you may not cum until I do."
Sean whispers "Yes Mistress Jade" his own breath short with lust and excitement. Jade starts to tease her pussy lips open, watching as Sean reaches down and strokes his aching cock, his eyes locked on her hand just inches from his face. Jade teases her lips open, slowly rubbing her finger over her clit, moaning softly, every once in a while thrusting a finger into her now soaking wet pussy her hips rising to meet the finger, as it pumps in and out. Sean pumps harder at his cock, tongue flicking out in desperation to try and lick her, taste her. Jade smiles down, her breathing shallow, her finger working over her throbbing clit, bringing her closer. Sean slows his stroking; keeping himself right on the edge, his nerves stretched taut, longer than he thought was humanly possible. He trembles and whimpers in need.
Jade looks down at her slut toys face. She can see the pleasure and the strain. His mouth open, his cheeks flushed, his tongue moving in desperation, trying to reach her wetness. She leans closer, pressing her pussy to his mouth, his tongue starts lapping the parted pussy lips, her finger working faster on her clit, bringing her closer to orgasm. Sean moans against her, his tongue diving deep into her, lapping, his mind starts to spin, his cock twitches and aches in his hand, making him work his tongue harder at her pussy, wanting to bring her to orgasm. A few more strokes and Jade starts to shiver in delight, pressing down on his face, she tenses and lets out a long low moan as she cum. Her hands reach for the shower walls to support her as her hips rock against his face, the waves of pleasure riding over her. Sean feels the gush of her orgasm against his tongue, and sucks harder, moaning. With a final pump of his cock Sean’s body is racked with his own powerful orgasm. His cum shot out over the shower floor in powerful spurts, as he fell forward, his strength drained, letting his face rest against her pussy. One hand grabbing her leg while the other continues to work his cock, stroking through his orgasm. He feels her hands holding his head as his last shot of cum hits the shower floor. He rests his head against her, wrapping both arms around her thighs, panting softly the now cold water making him shiver a little, or was that from the power of his orgasm?
Jade patted Sean’s head and smiled.
“Well done slut toy,” She said, “Now clean yourself up meet me in the kitchen”
With that she reached down, removing his arms from her thighs and stepped out of the shower. Drying herself as Sean knelt in the shower, his head still spinning. The sound of her closing the bathroom door as she left jarred Sean to his senses. He stumbled week kneed out of the shower and rubbed himself dry on the towel she has tossed to the floor.
“You will take a shower, clean yourself up and be waiting for me” Was all it said.
Sean glanced round the room, and noticed a door ajar, leading to a shower and toilet. Placing the glass back down he went in, looking forward to a nice warm shower. He was still feeling somewhat sore and stiff from being tied to the bed yesterday, and he could smell the scents of yesterday on himself too.
Sean had been in the shower for about 15 minutes and was starting to relax. The hot water felt delicious as it flowed down his body. Streams of water cascaded over his chest, teasing across his nipples mingling with the straight jets as they hit his body. He watched this for a while, the twisting torrent always changing as they danced against his skin. He was hypnotized by the water and didn't notice as her hands slipped past the shower curtain. Jade stroked his back and he jumped and let out a startled little scream. She was naked and stepped in behind Sean and joined him. She kissed his neck and placed her hands on his shoulders.
“Hand Me the shampoo.”
“Yes, Mistress Jade" Sean replied with the hint of a laugh now that he recovered from the "Psycho" entrance.
Jade took the shampoo and squeezed some onto his head and started to work it in with her fingers as he melted against her body. The feeling was luxurious and his whole body was tingling with the pleasure of the experience. Next she took the shower massage off its hanger and held it close to his head to rinse it off. She worked slowly taking her time and making sure that she had completely rinsed the suds out.
Feeling the stream so close to his head, moving in little circles, felt incredibly sensuous! She let it slowly massage over his shoulder as the subs rinsed away. Jade then replaced the showerhead up into its holder and reached for the conditioner. After squeezing a more than generous amount into her hands and started working it into his hair. She ran her fingers through his hair, massaging in it. She then moved him forward, away from the stream of water.
“Put your hands against the wall," She instructed him.
Leaning forward, he placed his hands on the wall, bending at the waist. Being out of the water made him feel a little cold. Cold and hot air currents hit different parts of his body giving him the start of goose bumps. Jade squeezed more of the slick conditioner into her hand. She rubbed it against the crack of his arse, moving her hand up and down, all the way to the base of his cock and back. Again and again she did this, watching him arch his back in pleasure as her slick fingers glided over his tight rosebud, the tickles his balls, and the base of his cock, making him purr in pleasure. Without warning, she slid her index finger into his pink arse and immediately felt the ring of muscles grip her finger. The suddenness made Sean gasp as her finger slid in and out easily with its coating of conditioner. She crooked her finger a little while she was slowly working it back and forth and Sean began to react from the pleasure of her finger as it worked against him, the nerves there being stimulated each time her knuckle worked in and out.
Jade was becoming aroused as well. She breathed softly into his ear and leaned closer against him, and Sean felt the hardness of the strapon he had not known she was wearing rubbing against him. She removed her finger and Sean let out a short, pouting whimper at the ending of that pleasure. He had been getting excited, and did not want it to stop, but knew that if he spoke a word at this point, it could end any hope for exquisite release. Jade squeezed out another handful of conditioner and stroked it over the rubber cock, coating it with the thick creamy stuff. She positioned the head of the cock against his tight opening. Sean knew what was about to happen and tried to relax. Placing a hand on each side of his hips, Jade began to push slowly into him.
He was pushed forward, his head sideways against the tile wall, pressing his cheek against the cool surface, hands on the wall on either side of his face, he gasped, biting his bottom lip softly. The head of her cock was still visible, being squeezed by his still unyielding muscles. Jade backed out, squeezing more of the conditioner directly onto the head of the cock and onto his puckered arsehole. Once again, holding his hips, Jade pushed in. This time she felt the head of the cock as made it past the tight opening, but the muscles gripped against it like a ring of steel. Feeling the cock work slowly up into his arse caused a delicious pain/pleasure to course through him. The cock seemed massive as it worked its way to the hilt. Sean let out a gasp by the time her groin touched the cheeks of his arse, trying to relax as the cock invaded and filled him. Jade did not pull the cock back but reached her hand around his hips until she could curl her fingers round his cock. With one hand flat against his stomach, she worked her other hand up and down and slowly teased his throbbing shaft, her thumb caressing over this cock head, her teasing made him whimper and purr with pleasure.
She rocked her hips but kept contact against his arse, Sean found himself rocking with her, his hips matching hers; he let out a soft moan, his cock twitching in her hand. The feeling was intense; his arse and cock being worked at the same time. Sean’s breathing became ragged as he once again started to reach climax. He was almost there when suddenly Jade stopped stroking his cock and quickly withdrew from him. The sudden departure left him feeling incredibly empty and trembling with passion.
"Turn around and kneel," Jade commanded.
Quickly he turns and drops to his knees before her, his hips rock softly as he settles on his knees before her, watching her as she starts soaping up the rubber cock, the suds running down her legs. Jade looks down at him squeaky-clean cock held in her hand. Spray from the shower making him squint as he kneels before her, his legs as far apart as he can get them, water running in rivers across his heated skin, and dripping off his cock as it twitches. She reaches down, grasps a handful of his wet hair, and forcefully pulls his head back.
"Open your mouth, my dear slut toy." She says with an evil glint. Sliding the tip of the cock back and forth over his lips, she laughs.
"Lets see what a good little cock sucker you are!" She says as she starts to slide the cock into his mouth. Her hips rocking back and forth as he sucks and laps desperately. His mouth forced wider as the cock starts to fill it. Her hands gripping his head keeping him close, Sean lets out a whimper as Jade drives it into his mouth with her thrusting hips, his own cock throbbing madly between his thighs, precum leaking from the tip and mixing with the water that’s cascading down their bodies. She arches her back, moaning at the site before her, watching Sean between her thighs. He works on the cock, taking it deep into his mouth sucking and lapping, squinting through the water up at her. Jades thrusts become harder, her breathing once again reflecting her growing excitement watching him work the cock. Letting go of his head she undoes the strapon, still watching him suck, then steps back and pulls it out of his mouth. Dropping the strapon on the floor she steps in closer again, pulling his head back towards her pussy.
"Open your mouth, my dear, and pleasure yourself, but you may not cum until I do."
Sean whispers "Yes Mistress Jade" his own breath short with lust and excitement. Jade starts to tease her pussy lips open, watching as Sean reaches down and strokes his aching cock, his eyes locked on her hand just inches from his face. Jade teases her lips open, slowly rubbing her finger over her clit, moaning softly, every once in a while thrusting a finger into her now soaking wet pussy her hips rising to meet the finger, as it pumps in and out. Sean pumps harder at his cock, tongue flicking out in desperation to try and lick her, taste her. Jade smiles down, her breathing shallow, her finger working over her throbbing clit, bringing her closer. Sean slows his stroking; keeping himself right on the edge, his nerves stretched taut, longer than he thought was humanly possible. He trembles and whimpers in need.
Jade looks down at her slut toys face. She can see the pleasure and the strain. His mouth open, his cheeks flushed, his tongue moving in desperation, trying to reach her wetness. She leans closer, pressing her pussy to his mouth, his tongue starts lapping the parted pussy lips, her finger working faster on her clit, bringing her closer to orgasm. Sean moans against her, his tongue diving deep into her, lapping, his mind starts to spin, his cock twitches and aches in his hand, making him work his tongue harder at her pussy, wanting to bring her to orgasm. A few more strokes and Jade starts to shiver in delight, pressing down on his face, she tenses and lets out a long low moan as she cum. Her hands reach for the shower walls to support her as her hips rock against his face, the waves of pleasure riding over her. Sean feels the gush of her orgasm against his tongue, and sucks harder, moaning. With a final pump of his cock Sean’s body is racked with his own powerful orgasm. His cum shot out over the shower floor in powerful spurts, as he fell forward, his strength drained, letting his face rest against her pussy. One hand grabbing her leg while the other continues to work his cock, stroking through his orgasm. He feels her hands holding his head as his last shot of cum hits the shower floor. He rests his head against her, wrapping both arms around her thighs, panting softly the now cold water making him shiver a little, or was that from the power of his orgasm?
Jade patted Sean’s head and smiled.
“Well done slut toy,” She said, “Now clean yourself up meet me in the kitchen”
With that she reached down, removing his arms from her thighs and stepped out of the shower. Drying herself as Sean knelt in the shower, his head still spinning. The sound of her closing the bathroom door as she left jarred Sean to his senses. He stumbled week kneed out of the shower and rubbed himself dry on the towel she has tossed to the floor.
Monday, August 14, 2006
Words...
Sticks and stones can break my bones,
But words can never harm me...
Oh how untrue.
While sticks and stones can indeed break bones, often they will heal without any sign of the damage caused.
Words, on the other hand can cut deep and cause deep wounds that may never truly heal over. Wounds that will burst open at the simplest of memories, or fester unchecked and do untold damage to yourself deep down, damage that may never heal, damage that will feed a cycle of damage if you let it. But how do you stop it?
Yet, on the other hand, the simplest words can bring intense joy, pleasure and sense of well being to us.
Words...
Such a two edged sword.
Sometimes, knowing how powerful words are, can make saying what you want to say, indeed what you NEED to say, impossible. Especially if who you need to say it to, has cut you with words and/or actions in the past.
I want to lash out, to hurt back. Yet, I find myself holding back, knowing the damage that it will cause. Like a pebble tossed into a pond, the ripples would be far reaching.
Such is this roller coaster called 'Life' we ride.
But words can never harm me...
Oh how untrue.
While sticks and stones can indeed break bones, often they will heal without any sign of the damage caused.
Words, on the other hand can cut deep and cause deep wounds that may never truly heal over. Wounds that will burst open at the simplest of memories, or fester unchecked and do untold damage to yourself deep down, damage that may never heal, damage that will feed a cycle of damage if you let it. But how do you stop it?
Yet, on the other hand, the simplest words can bring intense joy, pleasure and sense of well being to us.
Words...
Such a two edged sword.
Sometimes, knowing how powerful words are, can make saying what you want to say, indeed what you NEED to say, impossible. Especially if who you need to say it to, has cut you with words and/or actions in the past.
I want to lash out, to hurt back. Yet, I find myself holding back, knowing the damage that it will cause. Like a pebble tossed into a pond, the ripples would be far reaching.
Such is this roller coaster called 'Life' we ride.
Friday, August 11, 2006
'Her Search' - a story by Dream
This is pure fantasy ;) But what a fun one
She sat slowly sipping her drink, her eyes watching the bar. She had been back every night for over a week now, waiting, looking for him. She first saw him one evening two weeks ago, in this very bar. She smiled softly as she remembered watching him. His cute smile and graceful movements had caught her attention. Just quiet how much she began to realise two days later when she was unable to stop thinking about him. And so she had spent every evening for the last ten days sitting at the bar, waiting for his return.
The door swung open and she smiled as she watched him enter. He was with friends, and they all stood at the opposite end of the bar to her, giving her a clear view of him. Tilting her head slightly she watched him. Taking in all of him, the way he smiled, held his glass, shifted his weight as he chatted, the way his eyes light up as he laughed while he spoke. The way the jeans he was wearing caresses his arse as he moved, all the little details she observed as she watches him from her seat. Her stomach tightening as he sipped his pint and then licked the froth off his lips. She leaned forward and beckoned to the barman, slipping him an envelope, and whispering instructions to him as she ordered another drink for herself. Sitting back and sipping it slowly as she carried on watching him, once or twice his eyes meeting hers across the bar.
She watched him drain his drink and go to order another. She smiled to herself, as the barman handed him his drink, informing him that this one had been bought for him by the lady at the other end of the bar. Briefly their eyes meet over the bar, his clearly questioning her. She simply smiled, raised her glass silently before finishong it and placing the empty glass on the bar. Standing she walked with a confident stride out of the bar, not once looking at him again, but knowing he was watching her. Knowing that right about now he was being handed the envelope, inside was a simple note ...
'You WILL meet me here tomorrow at 8pm'
She could not help wishing she could see his face when he opened that note. Part of her was wondering if she had judged him right. She was almost certain he would be there, that he would be the one she was looking for. Tomorrow night she would know, with the first part of the chase done she went home.
It was 8.15pm the next night when she arrived at the bar. Purposely being fifteen minutes late to see if he would wait. Upon entering she saw him standing there. Once again she felt her stomach tighten, as her gaze wandered over him. Turning slowly his eyes met hers briefly before lowering quickly, a soft blush forming on his cheeks.
She made her way over to him, slipping onto the bar stool beside him and ordering some drinks. She could not help but notice the slight shake of his hand as he picked up his.
'Hello' She smiled warmly at him.
'Hello' came his soft reply.
Running her tongue across the rim of her glass she watched him closely, her eyes locked on him. His eyes quickly moving from her gaze, but not before she saw the fire that burned within. She knew then she had read him right, knowing that this was indeed going to be fun. She reached out slowly and raised his lowered head, making him look at her, his eyes deep dark pools, excitement, passion and uncertainty shining through. Running her fingers over his jaw, across his lips, feeling them tremble at her touch, and along his cheeks, as they flushed with colour. Her tongue flicked across her lips as she looked at him. Smiling before removing her hand, watching him bite back the moan of disappointment.
'Yes' She thought to herself He is the one'
She sipped her drink once again, her eyes lowered, allowing him time to look at her, a soft smile playing over her lips, knowing he is trying to work out who she is and what she wants from him. Finding himself drawn like a moth to a light, unable to understand why he is here, why he followed her note, why he waited when she did not show on time.
Slowly lifting her eyes again, and smiling at him, letting her tongue run softly over slightly parted lips as she moves closer, letting her lips brush over his ear as she whispers...
'Lets go an sit at a table, its a little more private over in the corner'
She lead him to the quiet table and sits down, patting the seat beside her for him to sit on, watching him as he sits down beside her. Reaching out she run’s her fingers along his thigh, watching his face closely... She leans close and brushes his ear with her lips as she whispers once more...
You're Mine tonight.' A simple statment.
He nods slowly, his eyes burning with excitement, she feels his body shiver at her touch. Trailing her hand up the inside of his thigh, her eyes locked with his as she very soflty runs her fingers over the jeans covering his cock, tracing small circles over it, a wicked gleam in her eyes.
'All... mine' She mouths to him.
He groan softly, unable to stop himself. His head rolls back as her fingers tease him, running up and down the length of his cock and back over his thighs, squeezing them gently. She watches him closely as she unzips his jeans, a look of fear flashing across his face as he glances round the bar. Her fingers wrapping round his cock and stroking gently. He moans louder, his hips rocking upwards to meet her strokes, thighs falling open as he does so. His head rolling back as he is unable to stop the emotions running through his body. She leans closer, her breath warm against his skin as she whispers huskily to him...
'I am going to make you mine, to take you on a journey tonight like no other, just relax, trust me, you will enjoy it...'
She leans in and flicks her tongue over his lips before biting the bottom one, letting her teeth graze the tender skin trapped between them.As she does she runs her thumb over the head of his cock. He lets out a long low hiss, trying not to moan loudly, his body trembling in excitement, his hips rocking harder against her hands, she feels him twitch and throb. She pulls away from him, her eyes locking with his as she says...
'Not yet, not until I tell you'
His eyes widen as he realises what she is saying, Her hand stroking his cock a little faster, his hips matching hermovements, he whimpers, his breath rapid, his face flushed, his body tingling with excitement, his eyes burning with desire. She smiles softly, her tongue flicking over her lips, her thigh caressing his, her other hand on his chest, running her fingers over it, caressing his nipples.
'Yes Now... cum for me now'
His eyes plead with her briefly, then his body shudders in response to her words and her teasing. Twitching in her hands, his cock sends spurt after spurt of cum into them. He leans back shaking in pleasure, his eyes closed, his breath shallow and fast, his mind reeling. She leans in and kisses him.
'Well done' She whispers then chuckles 'You may want to clean up a little now'
He nods, unable to speak for now, his eyes closed as his body tingles with pleasure. She smiles softly at him leaning back and watching him closely.
'Yes' She thinks 'This is going to be an interesting'
Once he has recovered a little she watches him walk off to clean up, and goes to the bar to order another drink for them, sitting back down with them she watches him return. He sits slowly and looks at her, his eyes bright, quickly he lowers them and whispers to her
'Thank You Ma’am'
She nods, knowing he now understands ...
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She sat slowly sipping her drink, her eyes watching the bar. She had been back every night for over a week now, waiting, looking for him. She first saw him one evening two weeks ago, in this very bar. She smiled softly as she remembered watching him. His cute smile and graceful movements had caught her attention. Just quiet how much she began to realise two days later when she was unable to stop thinking about him. And so she had spent every evening for the last ten days sitting at the bar, waiting for his return.
The door swung open and she smiled as she watched him enter. He was with friends, and they all stood at the opposite end of the bar to her, giving her a clear view of him. Tilting her head slightly she watched him. Taking in all of him, the way he smiled, held his glass, shifted his weight as he chatted, the way his eyes light up as he laughed while he spoke. The way the jeans he was wearing caresses his arse as he moved, all the little details she observed as she watches him from her seat. Her stomach tightening as he sipped his pint and then licked the froth off his lips. She leaned forward and beckoned to the barman, slipping him an envelope, and whispering instructions to him as she ordered another drink for herself. Sitting back and sipping it slowly as she carried on watching him, once or twice his eyes meeting hers across the bar.
She watched him drain his drink and go to order another. She smiled to herself, as the barman handed him his drink, informing him that this one had been bought for him by the lady at the other end of the bar. Briefly their eyes meet over the bar, his clearly questioning her. She simply smiled, raised her glass silently before finishong it and placing the empty glass on the bar. Standing she walked with a confident stride out of the bar, not once looking at him again, but knowing he was watching her. Knowing that right about now he was being handed the envelope, inside was a simple note ...
'You WILL meet me here tomorrow at 8pm'
She could not help wishing she could see his face when he opened that note. Part of her was wondering if she had judged him right. She was almost certain he would be there, that he would be the one she was looking for. Tomorrow night she would know, with the first part of the chase done she went home.
It was 8.15pm the next night when she arrived at the bar. Purposely being fifteen minutes late to see if he would wait. Upon entering she saw him standing there. Once again she felt her stomach tighten, as her gaze wandered over him. Turning slowly his eyes met hers briefly before lowering quickly, a soft blush forming on his cheeks.
She made her way over to him, slipping onto the bar stool beside him and ordering some drinks. She could not help but notice the slight shake of his hand as he picked up his.
'Hello' She smiled warmly at him.
'Hello' came his soft reply.
Running her tongue across the rim of her glass she watched him closely, her eyes locked on him. His eyes quickly moving from her gaze, but not before she saw the fire that burned within. She knew then she had read him right, knowing that this was indeed going to be fun. She reached out slowly and raised his lowered head, making him look at her, his eyes deep dark pools, excitement, passion and uncertainty shining through. Running her fingers over his jaw, across his lips, feeling them tremble at her touch, and along his cheeks, as they flushed with colour. Her tongue flicked across her lips as she looked at him. Smiling before removing her hand, watching him bite back the moan of disappointment.
'Yes' She thought to herself He is the one'
She sipped her drink once again, her eyes lowered, allowing him time to look at her, a soft smile playing over her lips, knowing he is trying to work out who she is and what she wants from him. Finding himself drawn like a moth to a light, unable to understand why he is here, why he followed her note, why he waited when she did not show on time.
Slowly lifting her eyes again, and smiling at him, letting her tongue run softly over slightly parted lips as she moves closer, letting her lips brush over his ear as she whispers...
'Lets go an sit at a table, its a little more private over in the corner'
She lead him to the quiet table and sits down, patting the seat beside her for him to sit on, watching him as he sits down beside her. Reaching out she run’s her fingers along his thigh, watching his face closely... She leans close and brushes his ear with her lips as she whispers once more...
You're Mine tonight.' A simple statment.
He nods slowly, his eyes burning with excitement, she feels his body shiver at her touch. Trailing her hand up the inside of his thigh, her eyes locked with his as she very soflty runs her fingers over the jeans covering his cock, tracing small circles over it, a wicked gleam in her eyes.
'All... mine' She mouths to him.
He groan softly, unable to stop himself. His head rolls back as her fingers tease him, running up and down the length of his cock and back over his thighs, squeezing them gently. She watches him closely as she unzips his jeans, a look of fear flashing across his face as he glances round the bar. Her fingers wrapping round his cock and stroking gently. He moans louder, his hips rocking upwards to meet her strokes, thighs falling open as he does so. His head rolling back as he is unable to stop the emotions running through his body. She leans closer, her breath warm against his skin as she whispers huskily to him...
'I am going to make you mine, to take you on a journey tonight like no other, just relax, trust me, you will enjoy it...'
She leans in and flicks her tongue over his lips before biting the bottom one, letting her teeth graze the tender skin trapped between them.As she does she runs her thumb over the head of his cock. He lets out a long low hiss, trying not to moan loudly, his body trembling in excitement, his hips rocking harder against her hands, she feels him twitch and throb. She pulls away from him, her eyes locking with his as she says...
'Not yet, not until I tell you'
His eyes widen as he realises what she is saying, Her hand stroking his cock a little faster, his hips matching hermovements, he whimpers, his breath rapid, his face flushed, his body tingling with excitement, his eyes burning with desire. She smiles softly, her tongue flicking over her lips, her thigh caressing his, her other hand on his chest, running her fingers over it, caressing his nipples.
'Yes Now... cum for me now'
His eyes plead with her briefly, then his body shudders in response to her words and her teasing. Twitching in her hands, his cock sends spurt after spurt of cum into them. He leans back shaking in pleasure, his eyes closed, his breath shallow and fast, his mind reeling. She leans in and kisses him.
'Well done' She whispers then chuckles 'You may want to clean up a little now'
He nods, unable to speak for now, his eyes closed as his body tingles with pleasure. She smiles softly at him leaning back and watching him closely.
'Yes' She thinks 'This is going to be an interesting'
Once he has recovered a little she watches him walk off to clean up, and goes to the bar to order another drink for them, sitting back down with them she watches him return. He sits slowly and looks at her, his eyes bright, quickly he lowers them and whispers to her
'Thank You Ma’am'
She nods, knowing he now understands ...
Thursday, August 10, 2006
subdrop
Subdrop, what is it, how do you cope with it?
Subdrop is the name given to the feeling often felt by subs after a scene as they return to 'normality' . It can happen within hours, other times it may take a few days. It can be over in no time at all, or can last as long as a few days.
One female sub I talked to likened it to feeling 'premenstrual' . Feeling irritable, unable to concentrate, a bit weepy, clingy, needy. For you male subbies out there, its not unlike a mild depression.
The sub will have been in an intense place during play, and added to this of course, are the hugely elevated amounts of naturally produced hormones, endorphins, adrenaline, etc that will still be flowing around the sub's body. These may take some time to return to normal levels, and there may well be a withdrawal effect, too. The sub will be going through a mental and physical cold turkey, as the endorphins are similar to opiates.
As a Domme after care of my sub is paramount to me. The effects of subdrop will vary from sub to sub, and therefore the way you deal with it will depend on the subs needs.
So how do we deal with it?
In whatever way works best is the answer. Great patience, care and affection will not only help fulfil the subs need for attention, but it also shows that their well being is important to the Dom/me. Not just while they are being used as a play partner, but as the person they are outside of play too. The bond shared during aftercare can be stronger than that made out of purely physical attraction or during play.
To cuddle with sub comfortable in my arms after play, is just as fulfilling in many ways, as the act of taking him to that special subspace of his. Many Dom/mes don't realise this need, and can neglect aftercare, this can be potentially damaging to a sub. For example if the scene has included a good dose of humiliation, the sub could well need your reassurance that seeing them in that state has not changed your opinion of them, often they will be dealing with feeling of guilt and will need to be soothed and reassured.
As a Dom/me you need to try and understand what the sub needs from you, and provide it. Keep them comfortable, watch them for signs of distress let then know you are there for them. With some practice, communication and a consistent approach, the sub will come to understand that you understands what is happening to them and that you are helping them get through it.
Quite often, a sub that has had several bad experiences of subdrop will begin to ask themselves if the highs achieved during subspace are worth the lows of subdrop set against them. If they know that their Dom/me will do all in their power to provide this aftercare then there will rarely be a question about going to subspace.
Dream`
Subdrop is the name given to the feeling often felt by subs after a scene as they return to 'normality' . It can happen within hours, other times it may take a few days. It can be over in no time at all, or can last as long as a few days.
One female sub I talked to likened it to feeling 'premenstrual' . Feeling irritable, unable to concentrate, a bit weepy, clingy, needy. For you male subbies out there, its not unlike a mild depression.
The sub will have been in an intense place during play, and added to this of course, are the hugely elevated amounts of naturally produced hormones, endorphins, adrenaline, etc that will still be flowing around the sub's body. These may take some time to return to normal levels, and there may well be a withdrawal effect, too. The sub will be going through a mental and physical cold turkey, as the endorphins are similar to opiates.
As a Domme after care of my sub is paramount to me. The effects of subdrop will vary from sub to sub, and therefore the way you deal with it will depend on the subs needs.
So how do we deal with it?
In whatever way works best is the answer. Great patience, care and affection will not only help fulfil the subs need for attention, but it also shows that their well being is important to the Dom/me. Not just while they are being used as a play partner, but as the person they are outside of play too. The bond shared during aftercare can be stronger than that made out of purely physical attraction or during play.
To cuddle with sub comfortable in my arms after play, is just as fulfilling in many ways, as the act of taking him to that special subspace of his. Many Dom/mes don't realise this need, and can neglect aftercare, this can be potentially damaging to a sub. For example if the scene has included a good dose of humiliation, the sub could well need your reassurance that seeing them in that state has not changed your opinion of them, often they will be dealing with feeling of guilt and will need to be soothed and reassured.
As a Dom/me you need to try and understand what the sub needs from you, and provide it. Keep them comfortable, watch them for signs of distress let then know you are there for them. With some practice, communication and a consistent approach, the sub will come to understand that you understands what is happening to them and that you are helping them get through it.
Quite often, a sub that has had several bad experiences of subdrop will begin to ask themselves if the highs achieved during subspace are worth the lows of subdrop set against them. If they know that their Dom/me will do all in their power to provide this aftercare then there will rarely be a question about going to subspace.
Dream`
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
'A Night In Her Hands' - a story by Dream
I love writing stories, and even more if I am writing with someone in mind. This one is for a friend, I do plan to add to it soon, so keep your eyes out for more *winks*
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As she stopped to check herself in the mirror she smiled softly, running her hands over her black skirt smoothing it, her fingers caressing the soft fabric as she shook her long curly hair, watching it bouncing softly over her shoulders and down her back. She nodded, a smile forming on her lips as she finished checking herself.
She headed back to the playroom, casting her eyes round the room as she entered. Candlelight danced off the walls, soft music played in the background. Her fingers ran through the tails of her floggers hanging on the wall and she smiled softly in anticipation watching the tails fall through her fingers. She leant in and inhaled the soft scent of the leather before moving on and checking the items set out on a table against the wall. Her fingers danced softly over the leather cuffs, a blind fold, a gag, lingering on the paddle and few other items that lay there, her eyes closed briefly as a shiver of delight at the evening ahead went through her.
Yes, it was all set, now all she has to do was wait.
He was on time, the knock on the door at 7.15pm as instructed. She opened the door and smiled as her eyes travelled over him, watching him shuffle slightly from foot to foot as she stood there watching him for a few moments, letting the anticipation build. Stepping back she opened the door wide and stood aside to let him in.
'Don't just stand there, get in' She smirked at him.
Once he was in, she closed the door, and leant back against it looking at him.
'Strip' She commanded 'Be sure to leave your clothes in a neat pile on that chair' She motioned with her left hand to a chair sitting in the hall way.
His mouth dried slightly and he worked his tongue back and forth trying to moisten his lips and mouth as he stripped. His fingers shook slightly as he felt her eyes burning through him. Her presence was a little nerve wracking, but not nearly as much as her silence was. He knew she was in one of her deeper moods just from the silence, and he could not help but respond to the thrill that sent through his body.
'Excited already I see' She laughed as he removed his boxers and folded then on top of the rest of his clothes.
He turned to face her, a soft smile on his lips as he looked at her. The slap across his cheek had surprised him as much as the speed at which she had moved over to him. It sent his head flying to his right. His hand coming up to rub the smarting flesh as it did. He turned to look at her wearily and she just laughed. Reaching out she curled her fingers in his hair and pulled his head closer to her.
'Don't even think about stepping out of line tonight' She hissed against his ear.
He whimpered softly, almost losing his balance as she let go of him. She ran her nails over his chest, snaking them over his skin, and watching as the small red welts followed their path, raking down over his stomach causing him to inhale, a soft whimper of pleasure escaping his lips. The bite of her nail as her fingers curled round his balls made his snap open his eyes. She smirked softly and him, turned slightly and started to walk towards the play room, he scuttled after her as gracefully as he could, unable to stop the whimpers as she tugged.
He blinked to adjust his eyed to the candle light, the change did not see to effect her, she walked briskly over to the table. His mind was starting to reel a little, and his cock was showing his excitement as his balls protested under her tugging. She changed her grip slightly and laughed softly as she stood behind him. Without any warning she pushed him from behind and pinned him against the wall, thrusting her thigh between his and pinning him there. Reaching over to the table to take one wrist cuff and cuffs his left wrist, then secures it to a hook on the wall, she does the same with his right before stepping back a little. His ankles are kicked apart as she cuffs them spread wide, and secures them to the wall too.
She stands back and watches him. He has very little room to move, and tries to pull himself free. This just makes her laugh softly./ Stepping up behind him she runs her nails up his neck and into his hair, entwining and tugging his head back hard, her lips brushing his ear as she breaths softly.
'There is no escape until I am done with you' She purrs against his ear, 'Oh, and do I have plans for you tonight'
With that she lets go of his head and places both hands onto his arse, letting her nails bite into the tender flesh, causing him to jump forward into the wall, unable to escape the torment as she pinches and scratches over his firm cheeks. She steps back slightly and lifts her right hand high, bringing it down with a resounding slap over his cheeks, her hand dancing from right to left cheek as the blows rain down steadily. Watching the blush rising on his flesh as she works, stopping every now and then to rub and feel the heat before starting all over again.
She watching as his head rolls forward against the wall, small moans form deep within him filling the room. Reaching for one of the paddles, she starts changes the tempo and starts to paddle firmly over the now warming skin, watching the blush of his cheeks start to redden and glow as the paddles bounced back and forth over this cheeks and the tops of his thighs. She stops to rake her nails over the heated flesh, then reached between his thighs and runs then over this now throbbing cock. She moves behind him, pressing him against the wall as she rakes his thighs again, hissing in his ear.
'Don't leave any mess on that wall now'
He whimpers, his hips thrusting softly at her words, knowing that he will be leaving a wet trail over the wall. He tries to pull away, but she has him trapped firmly against the wall, and she just laughs at his attempts. Her hips pinning him as she rakes her nails up and down his back, before leaning in and letting her breath was over him, letting him hear the excitement in her breathing as she watches him, fixing the blind fold securely over his eyes as she does. Then suddenly she is gone again.
His read rolls as he tired to work out where she is, he tugs at the cuffs, unable to work out where she is, or what she is doing. The rustle of air over his back is the first sign of what is to come, followed by the sting of the leather flogger as it lands against his shoulders, sending him lurching back into the wall and letting out a hiss of breath. The next fall is not such a shock and he finds his head rolling forward as he tries to arch his back to meet the flogger, the sting tingling softly though him as she works the floggers in big arcs, the small leather strands dancing in the air as they fly with her strokes. She alters the force she uses with each strokes, and lets them land against his back in a steady, almost heart beat like, rhythm. His back warming and reddening under the floggers dance.
The flogger dances over his arse and thighs, but he does not remember her changing, his head still rolled forward against the wall and the fine leather strips bite into the already tender flesh of his butt and thighs, each stroke bringing a small grunt from him, his hips rocking in time with the flogger, arching back to reach it as it strikes, then thrusting forward as he grunts, before working back to meet it again. He is grateful for the cuffs holding his arms against the wall, as he knees start to weaken a little, and he finds himself hanging there.
The flogging stops, but his body is throbbing with the result. He is unable to do much but hang against the wall. The warmth of her against his as she once more stands behind him just intensifies the burning throbbing skin of his arse. His head is tugged hard back again as she grins watching him.
'You look like you need help staying up' She laughs evilly.
He nods, unable to reply. Her laughter still rings in his ears as suddenly she thrusts her hips forward and he feels her strap on slide against him. She reaches down and guides it between his cheeks and against his tight puckered hole, letting the lubes head glide back and forth once or twice before she thrust forward hard, burning her cock deep into him in one smooth action.
'Maybe this will help' She purrs at him
His kneels buckle again, pinning him against her cock, his wrists aching a little from the strain of hold him up. She slowly pulls back, then thrusts forward again, pinning him to the wall as she starts to fuck him. She leans in and bites his neck, her hips slapping against his reddened ones as she works, driving her cock in and out of his arse. His head rolls back as she bites him, moaning and grunting as she works herself in and out of his body. Her body pinnes against his as she works. His tender bruised arse tingles with each forward thrust.
She snakes her hand between his body and the wall and curls her fingers round his hot throbbing cock, sliding her fingers in time to the thrusts of her cock in his arse. She pants softly against his ear as his precum glides over her fingers and up and down his cock. He feel her excitement as it washes in hot shallow breaths over his ear, his own body tingling deep within. He feels her shudder against him, letting out a long low moan against his ear. Her body spasms against him, his cock twitches and leaks, his arse thrusts back against her cock, wanting her deeper. He hangs on the edge, so close to his own orgasm. She works her hand harder over his cock, giving a simple yes when he pleads to be allowed to cum.
Afterwards she laughs softly and pulls out, standing away from him and watches as he registers her sudden withdrawal, letting out a long moan of disappointment.She reaches up and uncuffs one ankle then the other. Reaching up to uncuff his right wrist, then his left, smiling softly as he tries to stand. Without another word she guides him to a cage in the corner, removes the blindfold, helps him in, covers him with a blanket.
'Time for you to rest my pet, I will be close, you rest in here'
She smiles softly as she locks the cage shut, then takes her seat close by to watch him. Oh yes, lots more fun to be had, she smiles, his red shoulders just peeking out of the security of the blanket, little purple welts covering the skin, she knows his thighs and arse will have matching ones. She settles back in her chair and just watches him softly.
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As she stopped to check herself in the mirror she smiled softly, running her hands over her black skirt smoothing it, her fingers caressing the soft fabric as she shook her long curly hair, watching it bouncing softly over her shoulders and down her back. She nodded, a smile forming on her lips as she finished checking herself.
She headed back to the playroom, casting her eyes round the room as she entered. Candlelight danced off the walls, soft music played in the background. Her fingers ran through the tails of her floggers hanging on the wall and she smiled softly in anticipation watching the tails fall through her fingers. She leant in and inhaled the soft scent of the leather before moving on and checking the items set out on a table against the wall. Her fingers danced softly over the leather cuffs, a blind fold, a gag, lingering on the paddle and few other items that lay there, her eyes closed briefly as a shiver of delight at the evening ahead went through her.
Yes, it was all set, now all she has to do was wait.
He was on time, the knock on the door at 7.15pm as instructed. She opened the door and smiled as her eyes travelled over him, watching him shuffle slightly from foot to foot as she stood there watching him for a few moments, letting the anticipation build. Stepping back she opened the door wide and stood aside to let him in.
'Don't just stand there, get in' She smirked at him.
Once he was in, she closed the door, and leant back against it looking at him.
'Strip' She commanded 'Be sure to leave your clothes in a neat pile on that chair' She motioned with her left hand to a chair sitting in the hall way.
His mouth dried slightly and he worked his tongue back and forth trying to moisten his lips and mouth as he stripped. His fingers shook slightly as he felt her eyes burning through him. Her presence was a little nerve wracking, but not nearly as much as her silence was. He knew she was in one of her deeper moods just from the silence, and he could not help but respond to the thrill that sent through his body.
'Excited already I see' She laughed as he removed his boxers and folded then on top of the rest of his clothes.
He turned to face her, a soft smile on his lips as he looked at her. The slap across his cheek had surprised him as much as the speed at which she had moved over to him. It sent his head flying to his right. His hand coming up to rub the smarting flesh as it did. He turned to look at her wearily and she just laughed. Reaching out she curled her fingers in his hair and pulled his head closer to her.
'Don't even think about stepping out of line tonight' She hissed against his ear.
He whimpered softly, almost losing his balance as she let go of him. She ran her nails over his chest, snaking them over his skin, and watching as the small red welts followed their path, raking down over his stomach causing him to inhale, a soft whimper of pleasure escaping his lips. The bite of her nail as her fingers curled round his balls made his snap open his eyes. She smirked softly and him, turned slightly and started to walk towards the play room, he scuttled after her as gracefully as he could, unable to stop the whimpers as she tugged.
He blinked to adjust his eyed to the candle light, the change did not see to effect her, she walked briskly over to the table. His mind was starting to reel a little, and his cock was showing his excitement as his balls protested under her tugging. She changed her grip slightly and laughed softly as she stood behind him. Without any warning she pushed him from behind and pinned him against the wall, thrusting her thigh between his and pinning him there. Reaching over to the table to take one wrist cuff and cuffs his left wrist, then secures it to a hook on the wall, she does the same with his right before stepping back a little. His ankles are kicked apart as she cuffs them spread wide, and secures them to the wall too.
She stands back and watches him. He has very little room to move, and tries to pull himself free. This just makes her laugh softly./ Stepping up behind him she runs her nails up his neck and into his hair, entwining and tugging his head back hard, her lips brushing his ear as she breaths softly.
'There is no escape until I am done with you' She purrs against his ear, 'Oh, and do I have plans for you tonight'
With that she lets go of his head and places both hands onto his arse, letting her nails bite into the tender flesh, causing him to jump forward into the wall, unable to escape the torment as she pinches and scratches over his firm cheeks. She steps back slightly and lifts her right hand high, bringing it down with a resounding slap over his cheeks, her hand dancing from right to left cheek as the blows rain down steadily. Watching the blush rising on his flesh as she works, stopping every now and then to rub and feel the heat before starting all over again.
She watching as his head rolls forward against the wall, small moans form deep within him filling the room. Reaching for one of the paddles, she starts changes the tempo and starts to paddle firmly over the now warming skin, watching the blush of his cheeks start to redden and glow as the paddles bounced back and forth over this cheeks and the tops of his thighs. She stops to rake her nails over the heated flesh, then reached between his thighs and runs then over this now throbbing cock. She moves behind him, pressing him against the wall as she rakes his thighs again, hissing in his ear.
'Don't leave any mess on that wall now'
He whimpers, his hips thrusting softly at her words, knowing that he will be leaving a wet trail over the wall. He tries to pull away, but she has him trapped firmly against the wall, and she just laughs at his attempts. Her hips pinning him as she rakes her nails up and down his back, before leaning in and letting her breath was over him, letting him hear the excitement in her breathing as she watches him, fixing the blind fold securely over his eyes as she does. Then suddenly she is gone again.
His read rolls as he tired to work out where she is, he tugs at the cuffs, unable to work out where she is, or what she is doing. The rustle of air over his back is the first sign of what is to come, followed by the sting of the leather flogger as it lands against his shoulders, sending him lurching back into the wall and letting out a hiss of breath. The next fall is not such a shock and he finds his head rolling forward as he tries to arch his back to meet the flogger, the sting tingling softly though him as she works the floggers in big arcs, the small leather strands dancing in the air as they fly with her strokes. She alters the force she uses with each strokes, and lets them land against his back in a steady, almost heart beat like, rhythm. His back warming and reddening under the floggers dance.
The flogger dances over his arse and thighs, but he does not remember her changing, his head still rolled forward against the wall and the fine leather strips bite into the already tender flesh of his butt and thighs, each stroke bringing a small grunt from him, his hips rocking in time with the flogger, arching back to reach it as it strikes, then thrusting forward as he grunts, before working back to meet it again. He is grateful for the cuffs holding his arms against the wall, as he knees start to weaken a little, and he finds himself hanging there.
The flogging stops, but his body is throbbing with the result. He is unable to do much but hang against the wall. The warmth of her against his as she once more stands behind him just intensifies the burning throbbing skin of his arse. His head is tugged hard back again as she grins watching him.
'You look like you need help staying up' She laughs evilly.
He nods, unable to reply. Her laughter still rings in his ears as suddenly she thrusts her hips forward and he feels her strap on slide against him. She reaches down and guides it between his cheeks and against his tight puckered hole, letting the lubes head glide back and forth once or twice before she thrust forward hard, burning her cock deep into him in one smooth action.
'Maybe this will help' She purrs at him
His kneels buckle again, pinning him against her cock, his wrists aching a little from the strain of hold him up. She slowly pulls back, then thrusts forward again, pinning him to the wall as she starts to fuck him. She leans in and bites his neck, her hips slapping against his reddened ones as she works, driving her cock in and out of his arse. His head rolls back as she bites him, moaning and grunting as she works herself in and out of his body. Her body pinnes against his as she works. His tender bruised arse tingles with each forward thrust.
She snakes her hand between his body and the wall and curls her fingers round his hot throbbing cock, sliding her fingers in time to the thrusts of her cock in his arse. She pants softly against his ear as his precum glides over her fingers and up and down his cock. He feel her excitement as it washes in hot shallow breaths over his ear, his own body tingling deep within. He feels her shudder against him, letting out a long low moan against his ear. Her body spasms against him, his cock twitches and leaks, his arse thrusts back against her cock, wanting her deeper. He hangs on the edge, so close to his own orgasm. She works her hand harder over his cock, giving a simple yes when he pleads to be allowed to cum.
Afterwards she laughs softly and pulls out, standing away from him and watches as he registers her sudden withdrawal, letting out a long moan of disappointment.She reaches up and uncuffs one ankle then the other. Reaching up to uncuff his right wrist, then his left, smiling softly as he tries to stand. Without another word she guides him to a cage in the corner, removes the blindfold, helps him in, covers him with a blanket.
'Time for you to rest my pet, I will be close, you rest in here'
She smiles softly as she locks the cage shut, then takes her seat close by to watch him. Oh yes, lots more fun to be had, she smiles, his red shoulders just peeking out of the security of the blanket, little purple welts covering the skin, she knows his thighs and arse will have matching ones. She settles back in her chair and just watches him softly.
Monday, August 07, 2006
Growth
Growth - what does it really mean when that phrase is used?
I've seen it used numerous times with very little detail with regards to what kind of growth it refers to or how a Dom/me can foster and nurture said growth. So I thought I would give you my opinion on it.
For me, as a Domme, I see it as my role to nurture a sub, to guide and teach them, and watch them grow. It could be said the Dom/me takes on roles like a personal trainer in guiding a slaves health and fitness, or teacher in educating a sub in the etiquette, and at times maybe even a therapist or counsellor in helping the sub to overcome personal fears or inhibitions.
I have heard it said that a sub can't grow if they are unowned, and I would like to argue this point. I believe that the sub is to a degree responsible for pushing themselves in new and scary directions. While a Dom/me can be a wonderful catalyst for change and growth, they work with that is already within, the potential that is already there, so the sub needs to work on their growth too.Why not try picking up those seeds yourself, try reading, talking to others in the lifestyle, even experimenting with different things on your own. Discover what it is that makes you tick, only you can do the ground work there, and once that is done, then the Dom/me can push and challenge you, to help you grown even more.
For those subs who are unowned, look at this a time to grow and develop in a different way, not as being static or an empty space between one relationship and another. It can be a valuable opportunity to take stock, to review the lessons of the past and to grow in self knowledge and confidence in oneself. You will find that as you journey your path into submission, there will be many people who contribute to your growth as a submissive and in as many different ways. Talking to other subs (and Dom/me) will often give you cause to re-evaluate assumptions and ideas about things, you will be continually learning and discovering.
One of the best tools there is in being able to see subs growth is dairy, be it a hand written one, or an online one. Then one can look back in time and reflect, and I guarantee you will be surprised at how you grow, because most of the time you just don't notice it. The other good tool is a BDSM check list. This is a evolving document, and you should check and update it at least once a year, maybe more if you are aware of things that have changed in it.
Improtantly, I don't think that a particular 'level' of personal growth can be sustained indefinitely, whatever the circumstances. Growth happens at different speeds, increases and decreases, levels out then starts all over again, hopefully through out our lives. Submission is no different than any other area in this respect, so take each step as it comes.
I've seen it used numerous times with very little detail with regards to what kind of growth it refers to or how a Dom/me can foster and nurture said growth. So I thought I would give you my opinion on it.
For me, as a Domme, I see it as my role to nurture a sub, to guide and teach them, and watch them grow. It could be said the Dom/me takes on roles like a personal trainer in guiding a slaves health and fitness, or teacher in educating a sub in the etiquette, and at times maybe even a therapist or counsellor in helping the sub to overcome personal fears or inhibitions.
I have heard it said that a sub can't grow if they are unowned, and I would like to argue this point. I believe that the sub is to a degree responsible for pushing themselves in new and scary directions. While a Dom/me can be a wonderful catalyst for change and growth, they work with that is already within, the potential that is already there, so the sub needs to work on their growth too.Why not try picking up those seeds yourself, try reading, talking to others in the lifestyle, even experimenting with different things on your own. Discover what it is that makes you tick, only you can do the ground work there, and once that is done, then the Dom/me can push and challenge you, to help you grown even more.
For those subs who are unowned, look at this a time to grow and develop in a different way, not as being static or an empty space between one relationship and another. It can be a valuable opportunity to take stock, to review the lessons of the past and to grow in self knowledge and confidence in oneself. You will find that as you journey your path into submission, there will be many people who contribute to your growth as a submissive and in as many different ways. Talking to other subs (and Dom/me) will often give you cause to re-evaluate assumptions and ideas about things, you will be continually learning and discovering.
One of the best tools there is in being able to see subs growth is dairy, be it a hand written one, or an online one. Then one can look back in time and reflect, and I guarantee you will be surprised at how you grow, because most of the time you just don't notice it. The other good tool is a BDSM check list. This is a evolving document, and you should check and update it at least once a year, maybe more if you are aware of things that have changed in it.
Improtantly, I don't think that a particular 'level' of personal growth can be sustained indefinitely, whatever the circumstances. Growth happens at different speeds, increases and decreases, levels out then starts all over again, hopefully through out our lives. Submission is no different than any other area in this respect, so take each step as it comes.
Friday, August 04, 2006
'My Teddy Now' - a story by Dream
This story was inspired when someone saw some pics of me messing around with my teddy bear, his comment was 'I wish I was your teddy' I don't have the pictures anymore, but I may just have to take one to add to this *winks*
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I looked over at you as we sat eating dinner “I have a treat for you my sweet slut,” I said smiling. “ A very special treat for you indeed.”
You felt your heart race a little as you looked at the wicked gleam in my eyes, wondering what I had planned this time. You were learning very quickly that life with me was never dull, and that I could be wickedly sexy and full of surprises, your body tingled as you tried to focus on eating dinner. Catching my eye every now and again, the look you see there sending more shivers through your already excited body.
Sitting with my coffee after dinner I smiled and patted the seat beside me “Come sit with me.” I said.
You settled in the seat beside me and smiled. You were still wondering what I had planned, but knew better than to ask me, knowing I would let you know all in good time. I laughed softly watching you.
“You are burning with curiosity aren’t you?” I ask.
You nod at me, your eyes burning with a mixture of curiosity and desire that I loved to see.
“Well the I guess its time to find out. Into the bathroom and get undressed. I want you to wait until I get there,” I ordered.
You jumped up and practically ran up the stairs taking them two at a time. You knew you were in for a good night when I told you to get undress and wait for me. You stripped off and placing your clothes into the linen basket, slipped you’re your knees to wait for me. You mind was racing, your heart beating loudly in your chest, the blood coursing through your ears, pounding softly against your eardrums. You kneel with you thighs spread open, your hands resting softly on your thighs and listen out for my footsteps on the stairs, feeling your body tense as you hear them.
As the door opened you smile, straightening yourself proudly. You know how much I liked to see you like this, and you always get great pride in displaying yourself to me.
I wink and lean in to run the bath, pouring a small amount of bubble bath under the water steaming from the taps. Turning to look at you as the bath filled, I nodded.
“Yes, this will be fun, but we need to make sure you are all clean first.” I laugh softly.
Turning I turn of the taps, swished the water in the bath and tell you to stand. Nodding at the bath I ordered you into the water. Stepping into the water you close your eyes and sit down into the bath, laying back to allow me access to you, your body taut with anticipation and excitement. Picking up the sponge and bar of soap I lather it up and grinning at you I start to rub it over your chest. You can’t help but moan softly as the sponge caresses your chest and nipples. Down along your stomach and over your thighs, working it into a rich cleansing lather. Placing the sponge on the side I pick up the razor and starts to razor you smooth.
Tweaking at your nipples I tell you to roll onto your knees. As you kneel on all fours in the bath, I lather up my hands and run them up and down your thighs, squeezing your arse. Moving down to your cock and balls and caressing them softly, my hand teasing and tormenting you, causing your cock to twitch and throb in my hands. I pull away and caress your butt again my finger sliding into your arse, cleaning you there too. You moan softly in pleasure, your hips rocking against my fingers as they glide in and out of you.
I laugh softly as I remove my fingers and you moan in frustration, slapping your arse I tell you to get out of the bath, and start drying you, rubbing briskly with the towel over your body. When I am finished I smile at you, my eyes locking with yours. Your eyes meet mine, deep pools of curiosity reflecting in them, as you wonder at what I have planned for you. Knowing by the look in my eyes that I am excited at what ever it is I am up to.
I smile and kissing you telling you to go lay on my bed now. You do as you are told and lay back on my bed. I follow you in and pick up some cords lying on side and put them beside you on the bed. I smile down at you.
“Its time for the fun to start” I laugh.
Picking up one I start binding your ankles to your thighs firmly, wrapping it securely round and round your ankles and thighs, first your right side then using another piece on your left, making sure to tie them secure, leaving you spread and vulnerable. Running my hands up over your stomach, and then your chest as I move up your body. My nails drag over your skin leaving a trail of red welts as they do. I feel you shiver under my touch, and I grin down at you. Using more cords I bind your wrists close to your shoulders, once again making sure to tie them secure. First the right side, then the left. Watching the mixture of excitement, curiosity and fear building in your eyes as you watch me working, your breathing becoming a little ragged, your face starts to flush.
I stand back and admire you all tied up, bound and secure for me. I grin a little, lean in and whisper to you my lips brushing your ear, warm breath washing over you as I speak.
"Oh my sweet slut, you look so cute" I reach over and pull a bag from the draw, winking at you as I do so. "I have got a present for you my little one, and I just know you will like what I have here."
Reaching into a bag I laugh as you gasp when I remove a specially made teddy suit for you. It’s made of soft toy fur fabric, in a deep shade of purple. Grinning down at you I kneel on the bed beside you and slip it each of your tightly bound legs into the leg sections, rolling you on your side to pull it up your back before slipping your arms away into the suit. Fitting you snugly the fluffy material I caress your exposes chest and stomach, making you squirm and moan in pleasure. I laugh as I trail my fingers over your throbbing cock.
My eyes burn brightly as I lay you back on the bed, your arms and legs now covered. I smile again, reaching into the bag once more, this time removing a specially made butt plug, with a fury teddy tail on it, covering it with lube I laugh as I look at you, my hand working up and down along the length of it, your eyes never leaving my hands, your moans of pleasure getting louder and louder. I insert it through a specially designed hole at the back of the suit into your tight arse, letting it slid in slowly. Feeling you wiggle and squirm as I slowly move it in and out, watching you, your moans louder now, slowly I press it deep into your arse and feel it slip firmly into place, your muscles clenching it firmly.
My hands move back to your still exposed chest, once again My nails trailing over your skin, I lean down to kiss you, nibbling on your lips, before pulling the teddy hood over your head, leaving just your face showing. I tweak your nipples before taking your cock and slipping it and your balls through another specially designed hole, it is elasticated so that it fits firmly round your cock, making it stand out obscurely from the suit.
Slowly I zip up the suit, before standing back and admiring my teddy Your arms and legs sticking out, your tail twitching in your ass and your cock and balls there for my to see, standing proud against the deep purple fur. You whimper softly, watching me, waiting to see what I do next. I smile leaning closer.
“Your my slut teddy now” I whisper laughing “You really are my teddy now aren’t you?” Grinning down at your helpless form.
Slowly I straddle your body, kneeling over you I run my breasts up and down your furry body moaning softly, I arch my back as I reach your mouth, tracing your lips with my erect nipples, and letting you suck on them for a while. Moving up to sit crouching over your face, my wet pussy rubbing over your tongue and nose, spreading my juice all over you, rocking and moaning loudly, grinding onto you as you lay there helpless, unable to do anything but lick and suck. I reach down and let my finger dance over my throbbing clit as my hips jerk against you. Rubbing over and over, I moan louder, my thighs clamping against you. I let out an exploding hiss as my orgasm courses through my body. Shuddering as I cum, flooding your nose and mouth with my juice and scent.
Turning round onto all fours and rubbing My arse over your tongue, feeling you kiss and lick against my skin. My own tongue flicks over your throbbing cock, lapping before licking down to your balls, sucking and teasing you. Back upwards I work, rolling my tongue round and round your cock, caressing the sensitive underside with my tongue each time, feeling your twitch as I take your cock in my hands and move them up and down, stroking caressing, teasing. Sliding back against your tongue and fucking myself on you again, I start moaning loudly as I glide over your face, coating you in my juices. My hand teasing your tail plug in and out of your arse as I suck on your cock, hearing you whimper and moan, feeling you shivering in pleasure beneath me. Shuddering and moaning as I fuck you, feeling your cock throb and swell in my mouth, knowing you’re close.
“Yes, cum for me” I whisper against your throbbing cock, pulling away and stroking you hard while pressing the butt plug in hard as you explode. I shiver as you moan against my pussy that still seals your mouth as you cum, rope after rope of your cum shooting into my hands. As you lay there panting I place my hands at your mouth for you to clean up.
“MMMMMmmmmmm, Oh yes what a good teddy you are!”
Climbing off the bed and smiling down at you, laying there on my bed, for my pleasure, your face covered with my scent, your cock twitching against the fur of your suit, your breath is fast, your face is flushed, your eyes burn with excitement. As I turn to leave I hear you whimper, and I stop looking back at you. Scooping up my knickers off the floor I poke them into your mouth laughing softly, knowing that you will not be able to call out for me now, and also knowing that you can’t move. Kissing your forehead I laugh softly again.
“You’re my teddy on my bed now, I will be back for more teddy slut fun !" I call out laughing as I leave the room.
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I looked over at you as we sat eating dinner “I have a treat for you my sweet slut,” I said smiling. “ A very special treat for you indeed.”
You felt your heart race a little as you looked at the wicked gleam in my eyes, wondering what I had planned this time. You were learning very quickly that life with me was never dull, and that I could be wickedly sexy and full of surprises, your body tingled as you tried to focus on eating dinner. Catching my eye every now and again, the look you see there sending more shivers through your already excited body.
Sitting with my coffee after dinner I smiled and patted the seat beside me “Come sit with me.” I said.
You settled in the seat beside me and smiled. You were still wondering what I had planned, but knew better than to ask me, knowing I would let you know all in good time. I laughed softly watching you.
“You are burning with curiosity aren’t you?” I ask.
You nod at me, your eyes burning with a mixture of curiosity and desire that I loved to see.
“Well the I guess its time to find out. Into the bathroom and get undressed. I want you to wait until I get there,” I ordered.
You jumped up and practically ran up the stairs taking them two at a time. You knew you were in for a good night when I told you to get undress and wait for me. You stripped off and placing your clothes into the linen basket, slipped you’re your knees to wait for me. You mind was racing, your heart beating loudly in your chest, the blood coursing through your ears, pounding softly against your eardrums. You kneel with you thighs spread open, your hands resting softly on your thighs and listen out for my footsteps on the stairs, feeling your body tense as you hear them.
As the door opened you smile, straightening yourself proudly. You know how much I liked to see you like this, and you always get great pride in displaying yourself to me.
I wink and lean in to run the bath, pouring a small amount of bubble bath under the water steaming from the taps. Turning to look at you as the bath filled, I nodded.
“Yes, this will be fun, but we need to make sure you are all clean first.” I laugh softly.
Turning I turn of the taps, swished the water in the bath and tell you to stand. Nodding at the bath I ordered you into the water. Stepping into the water you close your eyes and sit down into the bath, laying back to allow me access to you, your body taut with anticipation and excitement. Picking up the sponge and bar of soap I lather it up and grinning at you I start to rub it over your chest. You can’t help but moan softly as the sponge caresses your chest and nipples. Down along your stomach and over your thighs, working it into a rich cleansing lather. Placing the sponge on the side I pick up the razor and starts to razor you smooth.
Tweaking at your nipples I tell you to roll onto your knees. As you kneel on all fours in the bath, I lather up my hands and run them up and down your thighs, squeezing your arse. Moving down to your cock and balls and caressing them softly, my hand teasing and tormenting you, causing your cock to twitch and throb in my hands. I pull away and caress your butt again my finger sliding into your arse, cleaning you there too. You moan softly in pleasure, your hips rocking against my fingers as they glide in and out of you.
I laugh softly as I remove my fingers and you moan in frustration, slapping your arse I tell you to get out of the bath, and start drying you, rubbing briskly with the towel over your body. When I am finished I smile at you, my eyes locking with yours. Your eyes meet mine, deep pools of curiosity reflecting in them, as you wonder at what I have planned for you. Knowing by the look in my eyes that I am excited at what ever it is I am up to.
I smile and kissing you telling you to go lay on my bed now. You do as you are told and lay back on my bed. I follow you in and pick up some cords lying on side and put them beside you on the bed. I smile down at you.
“Its time for the fun to start” I laugh.
Picking up one I start binding your ankles to your thighs firmly, wrapping it securely round and round your ankles and thighs, first your right side then using another piece on your left, making sure to tie them secure, leaving you spread and vulnerable. Running my hands up over your stomach, and then your chest as I move up your body. My nails drag over your skin leaving a trail of red welts as they do. I feel you shiver under my touch, and I grin down at you. Using more cords I bind your wrists close to your shoulders, once again making sure to tie them secure. First the right side, then the left. Watching the mixture of excitement, curiosity and fear building in your eyes as you watch me working, your breathing becoming a little ragged, your face starts to flush.
I stand back and admire you all tied up, bound and secure for me. I grin a little, lean in and whisper to you my lips brushing your ear, warm breath washing over you as I speak.
"Oh my sweet slut, you look so cute" I reach over and pull a bag from the draw, winking at you as I do so. "I have got a present for you my little one, and I just know you will like what I have here."
Reaching into a bag I laugh as you gasp when I remove a specially made teddy suit for you. It’s made of soft toy fur fabric, in a deep shade of purple. Grinning down at you I kneel on the bed beside you and slip it each of your tightly bound legs into the leg sections, rolling you on your side to pull it up your back before slipping your arms away into the suit. Fitting you snugly the fluffy material I caress your exposes chest and stomach, making you squirm and moan in pleasure. I laugh as I trail my fingers over your throbbing cock.
My eyes burn brightly as I lay you back on the bed, your arms and legs now covered. I smile again, reaching into the bag once more, this time removing a specially made butt plug, with a fury teddy tail on it, covering it with lube I laugh as I look at you, my hand working up and down along the length of it, your eyes never leaving my hands, your moans of pleasure getting louder and louder. I insert it through a specially designed hole at the back of the suit into your tight arse, letting it slid in slowly. Feeling you wiggle and squirm as I slowly move it in and out, watching you, your moans louder now, slowly I press it deep into your arse and feel it slip firmly into place, your muscles clenching it firmly.
My hands move back to your still exposed chest, once again My nails trailing over your skin, I lean down to kiss you, nibbling on your lips, before pulling the teddy hood over your head, leaving just your face showing. I tweak your nipples before taking your cock and slipping it and your balls through another specially designed hole, it is elasticated so that it fits firmly round your cock, making it stand out obscurely from the suit.
Slowly I zip up the suit, before standing back and admiring my teddy Your arms and legs sticking out, your tail twitching in your ass and your cock and balls there for my to see, standing proud against the deep purple fur. You whimper softly, watching me, waiting to see what I do next. I smile leaning closer.
“Your my slut teddy now” I whisper laughing “You really are my teddy now aren’t you?” Grinning down at your helpless form.
Slowly I straddle your body, kneeling over you I run my breasts up and down your furry body moaning softly, I arch my back as I reach your mouth, tracing your lips with my erect nipples, and letting you suck on them for a while. Moving up to sit crouching over your face, my wet pussy rubbing over your tongue and nose, spreading my juice all over you, rocking and moaning loudly, grinding onto you as you lay there helpless, unable to do anything but lick and suck. I reach down and let my finger dance over my throbbing clit as my hips jerk against you. Rubbing over and over, I moan louder, my thighs clamping against you. I let out an exploding hiss as my orgasm courses through my body. Shuddering as I cum, flooding your nose and mouth with my juice and scent.
Turning round onto all fours and rubbing My arse over your tongue, feeling you kiss and lick against my skin. My own tongue flicks over your throbbing cock, lapping before licking down to your balls, sucking and teasing you. Back upwards I work, rolling my tongue round and round your cock, caressing the sensitive underside with my tongue each time, feeling your twitch as I take your cock in my hands and move them up and down, stroking caressing, teasing. Sliding back against your tongue and fucking myself on you again, I start moaning loudly as I glide over your face, coating you in my juices. My hand teasing your tail plug in and out of your arse as I suck on your cock, hearing you whimper and moan, feeling you shivering in pleasure beneath me. Shuddering and moaning as I fuck you, feeling your cock throb and swell in my mouth, knowing you’re close.
“Yes, cum for me” I whisper against your throbbing cock, pulling away and stroking you hard while pressing the butt plug in hard as you explode. I shiver as you moan against my pussy that still seals your mouth as you cum, rope after rope of your cum shooting into my hands. As you lay there panting I place my hands at your mouth for you to clean up.
“MMMMMmmmmmm, Oh yes what a good teddy you are!”
Climbing off the bed and smiling down at you, laying there on my bed, for my pleasure, your face covered with my scent, your cock twitching against the fur of your suit, your breath is fast, your face is flushed, your eyes burn with excitement. As I turn to leave I hear you whimper, and I stop looking back at you. Scooping up my knickers off the floor I poke them into your mouth laughing softly, knowing that you will not be able to call out for me now, and also knowing that you can’t move. Kissing your forehead I laugh softly again.
“You’re my teddy on my bed now, I will be back for more teddy slut fun !" I call out laughing as I leave the room.
Wednesday, August 02, 2006
Absolute Surrender
For me, there can be no sweeter gift than absolute surrender and submission.
Getting a sub to let me open the door to their mind, allowing me enter, to wander slowly through the corridors of their minds, into those deep dark areas of their inner sanctum, a place not shared with many.
Then feeling the surrender as they relinquish their hold over their conscious mind and allowing compelling whispers to direct their subconscious. Discovering their hidden depths, and darkest desires, as they allow me to work with that, nurturing, pushing, encouraging their growth, moulding them. Watching as I then take them to the point of no return, as they surrender totally, completely, in order to please me. Watching as their body and mind surrender, releasing that last delicious sigh from deep within to announce their compliance and acceptance, to my will.
Watching as they kneel in surrender before me. For me there is nothing sexier than a sub willingly surrendering their mind to me, allowing me to treasure this gift and cradle it safely in my care. I admire those who willingly kneel, because to surrender completely requires great strength. It is such a powerful sight, one that is deeply intimate and vulnerable, it requires the subs trust and respect. This symbolic offering of a subs gift of submission quite literally takes my breath away, and strikes to the very core of me.
Its very true that anyone can kneel before a Dom/me, But I am talking about the sub who kneels in submission and surrender, openly offering themselves to my care, my whim, placing themselves in my hands.
Yes, a powerful, sexy, breath taking image indeed.
Tuesday, August 01, 2006
Punishment
Something today got me thinking about this subject, so I have decided to post my views on it.
'Punishment is the practice of imposing something unpleasant on a subject as a response to some unwanted behaviour or disobedience that the subject has displayed.
Punishment is a term from Psychological Learning Theory that has a precise meaning; it refers to something that causes a behaviour to lessen in intensity. There is nothing that is intrinsically punishing. A thing is called punishing if, when it is applied, it results in the reduction of behaviour that you want to reduce.'
I don't like the word punishment. I much prefer the term 'correction' and the correction should always fit the situation, and never be administered in anger
I believe most subs will do their best to please their Dom/me. If there is any 'displeasure', then they will feel bad enough, and be hard enough of themselves. Often it is enough that they know they have displeased their Dom/me. If my sub has displeased me, I would rather talk to them and explain why it had displeased me and then ask then to explain to me why they did it. We would then discuss it so that both of us understood and if a similar situation arose they would know what was expected and what to do.
Of course a lot of what happens in the process of correction will depend on the sub. I have known sub who like to be 'punished' in a play role, for minor indiscretions. Major ones would have to involve discussion in order for them to be resolved. I have also known subs who need to have correction handled in a very different way.
Yes, ultimately it is down to the Dom/me when and how they use it, but I believe it is a subject that should involve a lot of discussion, open, honest discussion. I have known subs who have said that, at times, they have found it hard to talk to their Dom/me about an issue for fear of their wrath. That is not how I want my subs to feel, because if the don't feel they can talk to you, there is a vital error in the relationship for me.
True 'punishment' is reserved for severe incidents or continual problems, or perhaps needed to work on stubbornness and to improve humility. Various things can be punishment, not necessarily physical, but mental aspects such as humiliation can do this just as well.
Punishment should be used cautiously as the dominant's role is to teach, to train, to bring the submissive into a better compliance with expectations, used incorrectly, it can adversely affect the relationship.
I have, and never would use BDSM as an 'excuse' for punishment. My partner is man, and does not need to be treated like a naughty kid. For me the crop/paddle/flogger etc, are all used by mutual consent and we gain mutual pleasure from it in our own ways, so the use of these for punishment is one I have reservations over, as the last thing I want is a sub that will misbehave in order to get a spanking. There is a fine line that is easy to cross, and subs who misbehave in order to have 'playtime' need to realise that, that behaviour will in fact result in no play from me.
But in play context, sure... 'Bend over and let me tan that butt you bad boy!' ~winks~
'Punishment is the practice of imposing something unpleasant on a subject as a response to some unwanted behaviour or disobedience that the subject has displayed.
Punishment is a term from Psychological Learning Theory that has a precise meaning; it refers to something that causes a behaviour to lessen in intensity. There is nothing that is intrinsically punishing. A thing is called punishing if, when it is applied, it results in the reduction of behaviour that you want to reduce.'
I don't like the word punishment. I much prefer the term 'correction' and the correction should always fit the situation, and never be administered in anger
I believe most subs will do their best to please their Dom/me. If there is any 'displeasure', then they will feel bad enough, and be hard enough of themselves. Often it is enough that they know they have displeased their Dom/me. If my sub has displeased me, I would rather talk to them and explain why it had displeased me and then ask then to explain to me why they did it. We would then discuss it so that both of us understood and if a similar situation arose they would know what was expected and what to do.
Of course a lot of what happens in the process of correction will depend on the sub. I have known sub who like to be 'punished' in a play role, for minor indiscretions. Major ones would have to involve discussion in order for them to be resolved. I have also known subs who need to have correction handled in a very different way.
Yes, ultimately it is down to the Dom/me when and how they use it, but I believe it is a subject that should involve a lot of discussion, open, honest discussion. I have known subs who have said that, at times, they have found it hard to talk to their Dom/me about an issue for fear of their wrath. That is not how I want my subs to feel, because if the don't feel they can talk to you, there is a vital error in the relationship for me.
True 'punishment' is reserved for severe incidents or continual problems, or perhaps needed to work on stubbornness and to improve humility. Various things can be punishment, not necessarily physical, but mental aspects such as humiliation can do this just as well.
Punishment should be used cautiously as the dominant's role is to teach, to train, to bring the submissive into a better compliance with expectations, used incorrectly, it can adversely affect the relationship.
I have, and never would use BDSM as an 'excuse' for punishment. My partner is man, and does not need to be treated like a naughty kid. For me the crop/paddle/flogger etc, are all used by mutual consent and we gain mutual pleasure from it in our own ways, so the use of these for punishment is one I have reservations over, as the last thing I want is a sub that will misbehave in order to get a spanking. There is a fine line that is easy to cross, and subs who misbehave in order to have 'playtime' need to realise that, that behaviour will in fact result in no play from me.
But in play context, sure... 'Bend over and let me tan that butt you bad boy!' ~winks~
Monday, July 31, 2006
'slave chains' - a poem by Dream
I wrote this after fade got his chains. I love them, so does he :) The way they restrict movement, the fact any movement is accompanied by the rattle of chains, just re-enforcing the fact he is mine.~chuckles softly~ And watching him make a bed in them is so much fun!
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Heart beating, he stands,
Breath shallow,
Mind racing.
Waiting …
Collar and cuffs of leather,
Joined in chains,
Inhaling he shivers.
Intoxicating…
The soft black leather,
Wrapping round his neck,
Capturing his heartbeat.
Entrancing …
Arms and ankles,
Secured in cuffs,
All joined by chains.
Captivating …
Locked in leather,
Bound in chains,
Wrapped in love,
Owned, Completely.
Hers.
At his side She watches,
Soft leather encasing his skin
Chains chinking softly as he moves
Skin flushed in his excitement
She hears his ragged breath,
Sees his heart beating its rhythm against his chest.
Senses his emotions flutter, and then take flight.
Her lips curl into a gently smile.
Fingers wrap around his chains
The chains that bind him to Her
Tugging gently as She guides him
Leading him ever onwards.
Breath shallow,
Mind racing.
Waiting …
Collar and cuffs of leather,
Joined in chains,
Inhaling he shivers.
Intoxicating…
The soft black leather,
Wrapping round his neck,
Capturing his heartbeat.
Entrancing …
Arms and ankles,
Secured in cuffs,
All joined by chains.
Captivating …
Locked in leather,
Bound in chains,
Wrapped in love,
Owned, Completely.
Hers.
At his side She watches,
Soft leather encasing his skin
Chains chinking softly as he moves
Skin flushed in his excitement
She hears his ragged breath,
Sees his heart beating its rhythm against his chest.
Senses his emotions flutter, and then take flight.
Her lips curl into a gently smile.
Fingers wrap around his chains
The chains that bind him to Her
Tugging gently as She guides him
Leading him ever onwards.
Sunday, July 30, 2006
New Toys!
Well here are my yummy new toys that arrived this week! (If you click on the pic you will get a bigger one)
The Fur and Barbedwire flogger are from Jacks Floggers and the barbed wire one stings like mad!
The Paddle and Twase from Whipsmaid
And the crop from a local sadle shop, and goes well with my back one ;) Yup, I have a theme of black and prurple toys, and have a nice collection now. Still waiting for another two floggers to come too :)
So now I need targets to practice on... any offers??
Friday, July 28, 2006
Pervertables
Everyday Objects and BDSM, aka Pervertables!
We have all had fun with every day objects in a D/s setting I am sure, I know I have, there are a plethora of items at your fingertips after all. I started wondering about whole scenes using only these objects, to say my imagination went into overdrive would be fair!!
Cling film, used to wrap the sub from shoulders to feet. I like adding balls of cling film to the palms of the hands and making the sub hold them, arms crossed over the chest. 1) for comfort, the fingers can move a little and are less likely to become numb and 2) the way I wrap the hands makes escape almost impossible. I say almost, because I am sure one day someone will escape and I will have to rethink that! A cushion of cling film between knees and ankles again aids comfort of the sub, well as comfortable as being helpless can be. The cock of course can be either in or out (Its always fun to add a butt plug, especially one of those inflatable vibrating ones, the plug securely wrapped in the body, but thats not a pervertable ;) just a toy I like to add, the controls left out for use) Of course a gag can be fun, and as its household items knickers and scarfs work well.
Of course, wax play on a well oiled body before the wrapping is fun. The cleaning up is easy as it just peels off when you unwrap. Just remember to have towels handy, and plenty of liquid when you unwrap them!
Toys I have used on wrapped bodies include a wonderful leather fly swatter I bought in a local cook shop. It has a nice wooden handle and large yummy leather swatter. Stinging nettles can be used under the wrap for added fun, To add a little 'pop' try using bubble wrap *grins*
Wooden spoons, spatulas, rulers all make wonderful toys.
Chopsticks and elastic bands as clamps.
Plastic or electric fly swatters.
Stainless Steel Juicers that can be used warmed or cooled are fun.
Pegs, of course, can't be forgotten
Fresh breath strips or alkalizer tablets for virginal or anal play.
Toothpaste, chillie paste/salve, ginger root, deep heat, tiger balm, icey white, to name but a few, for play with attitude *grins*
A whole fruit basket of fruit or veg, and just think of the fun you can have with it after ;)
Toothbrushes, especially the vibrating ones!
Hairbrushes as paddles, hair scrunches as cock rings.
I even discovered that those small leather book marks leave such a nice welt when the tailed end is used.
Ping Pong bats
And that's just off the top of my head in a few moments, and I am sure you can all think of 101 things that can be used... maybe we should make a 101 Pervertables list! I know I look at things and think... Hmmmm now that can be used for this, or as that, don't you?
I for one want to explore more scenes using only items like those listed about, and see just how much fun I can have.
Mmmmmmmmmm... what made me do this post... new toys that arrived today, and some ideas I was having... more on the new toys to come!!
We have all had fun with every day objects in a D/s setting I am sure, I know I have, there are a plethora of items at your fingertips after all. I started wondering about whole scenes using only these objects, to say my imagination went into overdrive would be fair!!
Cling film, used to wrap the sub from shoulders to feet. I like adding balls of cling film to the palms of the hands and making the sub hold them, arms crossed over the chest. 1) for comfort, the fingers can move a little and are less likely to become numb and 2) the way I wrap the hands makes escape almost impossible. I say almost, because I am sure one day someone will escape and I will have to rethink that! A cushion of cling film between knees and ankles again aids comfort of the sub, well as comfortable as being helpless can be. The cock of course can be either in or out (Its always fun to add a butt plug, especially one of those inflatable vibrating ones, the plug securely wrapped in the body, but thats not a pervertable ;) just a toy I like to add, the controls left out for use) Of course a gag can be fun, and as its household items knickers and scarfs work well.
Of course, wax play on a well oiled body before the wrapping is fun. The cleaning up is easy as it just peels off when you unwrap. Just remember to have towels handy, and plenty of liquid when you unwrap them!
Toys I have used on wrapped bodies include a wonderful leather fly swatter I bought in a local cook shop. It has a nice wooden handle and large yummy leather swatter. Stinging nettles can be used under the wrap for added fun, To add a little 'pop' try using bubble wrap *grins*
Wooden spoons, spatulas, rulers all make wonderful toys.
Chopsticks and elastic bands as clamps.
Plastic or electric fly swatters.
Stainless Steel Juicers that can be used warmed or cooled are fun.
Pegs, of course, can't be forgotten
Fresh breath strips or alkalizer tablets for virginal or anal play.
Toothpaste, chillie paste/salve, ginger root, deep heat, tiger balm, icey white, to name but a few, for play with attitude *grins*
A whole fruit basket of fruit or veg, and just think of the fun you can have with it after ;)
Toothbrushes, especially the vibrating ones!
Hairbrushes as paddles, hair scrunches as cock rings.
I even discovered that those small leather book marks leave such a nice welt when the tailed end is used.
Ping Pong bats
And that's just off the top of my head in a few moments, and I am sure you can all think of 101 things that can be used... maybe we should make a 101 Pervertables list! I know I look at things and think... Hmmmm now that can be used for this, or as that, don't you?
I for one want to explore more scenes using only items like those listed about, and see just how much fun I can have.
Mmmmmmmmmm... what made me do this post... new toys that arrived today, and some ideas I was having... more on the new toys to come!!
Thursday, July 27, 2006
'I want him ...' - a poem by Dream
I want him to welcome me home, run me my bath, and ensure I have all I want before he readies himself for me.
I want him to lay out the toys as instructed before I come into the room.
I want him to inspect the room – it must not be lacking in any way whatsoever.
I want him to ensure there is a glass of chilled wine waiting for me, to light the candles and put on the music.
I want him to undress, fold his clothes neatly and wait for me naked.
I want him to kneel, bow his head and contemplate. His thoughts will be of only me.
I want him to clear his mind of any worries and to concentrate on service. He need not be afraid for when I enter the room I shall take complete charge and will not allow harm to befall him, for I will protect and nurture.
I want him to allow me into his dark places – places he has never allowed anyone to enter. I feel thrilled, privileged and eager to go there.
I want him...
I want him to lay out the toys as instructed before I come into the room.
I want him to inspect the room – it must not be lacking in any way whatsoever.
I want him to ensure there is a glass of chilled wine waiting for me, to light the candles and put on the music.
I want him to undress, fold his clothes neatly and wait for me naked.
I want him to kneel, bow his head and contemplate. His thoughts will be of only me.
I want him to clear his mind of any worries and to concentrate on service. He need not be afraid for when I enter the room I shall take complete charge and will not allow harm to befall him, for I will protect and nurture.
I want him to allow me into his dark places – places he has never allowed anyone to enter. I feel thrilled, privileged and eager to go there.
I want him...
'Night Time Visitor' - a story by Dream
A warning, this is one of my stories, are you sitting comfortably, good, then I shall begin.
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He lay there in bed looking at the clock, it was 1am and he had to get some decent sleep. He closed his eyes, thinking of her and their time together. He rolled onto his side and reached down between his legs, caressing his hands over this throbbing cock, just thinking of her made him so hard and wet. His fingers played lightly back and forth, lazily stroking until he took his thumbs and caressed the wet head, it felt good under his touch. His eyes closed and slowed teased his cock as he lay there thinking about her...
Of course he trusted her , and of course it made sense to give her, her own key to his flat. It made life much easier, and at 2 am, as she quietly turned the key in the lock to his door, she smiled wickedly, silently thanking him. She closed the door behind her with a soft click. He had left a small light on in the living room as always and she crept softly across the room and down the hall, pushing the partially opened door even further open. A dim light fell across his bed, there he lay, twisted in sheets, on his stomach his face was turned away from the door and both his arms where hugging his pillow.
“It's too easy” She though, smiling to herself.
She licked her lips, over on the bed he never moved, his breathing was slow and even. She knew he was swept far away in dream land and unconscious of her presence. She closed the distance between them, walking carefully around the bed to the side where he lay and looked down upon his sleeping face, he never even stirred, her lips curled into a evil grin...
“What the…??”
He was slammed awake as he was suddenly flattened to his bed, his hands were pulled up hard and a body pinned him down into the mattress, he felt a hand gripping his hair. His mind struggled to focus, sleepiness numbing his sensations. He opened his mouth to try and catch his breath, maybe even scream but a hand covered his mouth roughly, a chilling voice growled into his ear.
“Shut... up...” that was all.
He bit the hand, and it pulled away as his intruder grunted and then jerked his head back by the hair, teeth dug into his neck and he cried out, but froze suddenly, the realization that he was being attacked paralysed him. He gasped for breath, his heart beating against his chest, the blood pounding in his ears as he struggled to keep calm, his throat dry as he screamed in silent fear.
She hesitated, not wanting to really hurt or traumatize him, but she wanted to push a bit farther, just a bit. She held his wrists tight, keeping them pressed into the pillow above his head as her hand twisted his head into the pillow, holding him down.
“Do... not... bite..." the voice snarled a warning into his ear.
He was panting by now, he knew the voice! Oh god... who was it? That freaky woman from the corner shop? Was it her? Oh my god... oh my god… his heart hammered against his chest as he struggles to think, he was trembling a little in fear now. The hands that held his wrists tightened and then he heard metal, he didn't move, cold metal circled his wrists and he heard the cuffs snap.
“Oh my god, I am being cuffed” he though “This isn't a joke, this isn't a dream.”
With that realisation he started to fight. He pulled with all his might with his arms but was stopped short. He had been cuffed to bars that formed the head board. He heard them scratch against the metal. Now she had both of her hands free, she rose up, straddling his hips and resting her weight on his body, he was pinned. He tried to twist his head, to look back and see who this was, but once more a hand forced his head down into the pillow. He could scream, but only into a pillow, and no one could hear him.
She paused, then and reached down under both of them and used her feet that were bent under her to part his legs. He screamed into the pillow, it was muffled and she didn't worry. She reached up and found his nipples, pinching then hard and twisting them. He jumped under her touch, freezing for a moment, then he struggled. She moved one had down to his cock and ran her fingers over it, he was hard and wet, his body giving away his excitement. She licked her lips, her hand left his cock and sniffed her fingers. She reached down and pulled up her skirt to reveal that she was wearing a strap on, she smiled as he writhed beneath her as she sat over him. She grabbed the cock as she listened to him yelling into the pillow her hand slowly glided up and down the rubber cock, reaching over to where she had placed the lube she began sliding some up and down and wondered what he was saying, she just grinned to herself.
He could feel her shifting, then her body covered his once more, her legs hooking in his and forcing them wide. The air hissed out of his mouth as she weight crushed down on him and he felt her cock press against his tight puckered arse.
“Nooooooooooooooooooo!” He screamed into the pillow.
Trying to fight back, to kick and scream, but it was little use. He shook as she thrust hard and fast and with that thrust, buried her cock into him. He jerked under her from the shock. It was a brutal thrust, fear sending shivers up his spine. Then she drew back slowly and held it there, as he fought to get his breath. Suddenly she was thrusting hard onto him once more, pounding into his arse, making his gasp, reaching under him and finding a nipple, she pulled on it as she drove her cock into him again. Despite his fear he moaned into the pillow, his body responding to her touch. She continued to drive her cock in and out of his arse, leaning down to bit his neck, letting her teeth graze over his skin as she did. She felt his resistance fade as the pleasure took over from the fear. Grinning to herself as she withdrew, causing him to whimper somewhat as she left his arse empty.
“Whats up slut, enjoying it now?” The voice hissed in his ear.
His face burnt in shame, he ccould not help but nod. He was enjoying it and did not want her to stop. She climbed off him, her fingers twisting into his hair and gripping hard, keeping his face in the pillow.
“On your knees slut!” The voice hissed.
He didn't move, not wanting to help. He screamed once more as she brought her hand down hard onto his arse, swift firm strokes onto each cheek, being sure to catch the tops of his thighs as the tears start filling his eyes, the blows raining down causing the flesh of his arse to burn as sting. She raked her nails over the heated flesh, before the spanking continue, a steady stream of heavy blows catching his arse and thighs and making him squirm beneath her again. Then without warning she reached between his thighs and curled her fingers round his balls, tugging on them.
"I said on your knees slut!" The voice hissed again.
He stumbled to his knees, and she laughed softly.
“Now you are catching on slut, keep that face in the pillow, or you get more of the same!” She said, tugging his balls once more for emphasis.
He nodded, fear keeping his face pressed into the pillow, now damp with his tears. The bed dipped as she knelt between his thighs, resting her cock back against his arse. He flinched and pulled away. She moved back and he sighed thankfully. The next moment she was striking his arse hard with a paddle, flinching as it burnt in pain, he let out a low moan, then before he can recover she was striking him again and again. His body trembling in a mixture of pain and pleasure, sending him to new heights despite the fear, once more his body betraying him. It ended as suddenly as it started and she knelt behind him again, her cock teasing his throbbing arse, stroking in gently in and out. He moaned in pleasure once more. She pulled back sliding all the way out, the next thrust, causing him to scream into the pillow again as she thrusts it deep into him. Her hands moving under his again and finding cock and running her nails over it making him buck up and forcing her cock deeper into his arse. Using her fingers to tease his cock head and making him moan. Letting go suddenly she slaps his thighs as her cock fucks his arse. Sliding one hand up under his body pinching and pulling at his nipple, pinning him to the bed. Pounding into his arse, hearing his moans as his body rides the sensations she produces. Her other hand raking her nails over his back, digging deeply into the tender flesh of his arse every time they reach it. Her breathing getting faster, he hears a groan, feeling her body twitch, his own body surprisingly close to the edge.
“Cum with me my slut” Her voice whispers.
In an instant it all becomes clear and he realises who this is, that familiar voice!
“Yes Mistress” he moans into the pillow.
Her words drive him over the edge, his body stiffens and trembles beneath her as he cums with her, screaming into the pillow once more, but this time in pleasure.
Pulling out of and moving to the top of the bed she turns his head to face him. Still trembling from his orgasm she tells him to clean her, his lips lovingly lick and kiss at her wet lips. He manages to whisper.
“Yes Mistress, oh thank you Mistress for using your sult tonight”
He feels her release the cuffs on his writs, kissing each one gently, before she lays beside him in the bed, her body sliding in beside him, she takes him in her arms and rests his head on her shoulder. He hears a soft moan of pleasure from her as she stroke his hair and he feel himself flush with pride at serving her well once more.
“Well done my pet” she says “Now sleep for tomorrow I have plans for you”
“Yes Mistress” he replies softly, his eyes closing. As he drift off he wonder what her plans were.
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
The 2006 version of I Will Survive
I recieved this in my mail and just had to share it. Thank you cindyslut!!!
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At first I was afraid, I was petrified.
When you said you had 10 inches, Lord I almost died!
But I'd spent so many years just waiting for a man that long,
That I grew strong,
And I knew that I could take you on...
But there you are, another lie,
I was ready for a Big Mac and you've brought me a French Fry!
I should have known that it was bullshit, just a sad pathetic dream,
Should have known there was no Anaconda lurking in those jeans!
Go on now - go, walk out the door,
Don't you promise me 10 inches, then turn up with only 4!
Weren't you a brat to think I wouldn't find you out!?
Don't you know we're only joking when we say size don't count??!!
[Chorus]
I will survive! I will survive!
Cuz as long as I have batteries,
My sex life's gonna thrive!
I will always have good sex,
With a handful of latex!
I will survive! I will survive! Hey! Hey!
It took all my self control not to laugh out loud,
When I saw your little weiner standing tall and proud!
But to hell with your ego and to hell with all your needs,
Now I'm saving all my lovin' for a cordless multispeed!
[Chorus]
I will survive! I will survive!
Cuz as long as I have batteries,
My sex life's gonna thrive!
I will always have good sex,
With a handful of latex!
I will survive! I will survive! Hey! Hey!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
At first I was afraid, I was petrified.
When you said you had 10 inches, Lord I almost died!
But I'd spent so many years just waiting for a man that long,
That I grew strong,
And I knew that I could take you on...
But there you are, another lie,
I was ready for a Big Mac and you've brought me a French Fry!
I should have known that it was bullshit, just a sad pathetic dream,
Should have known there was no Anaconda lurking in those jeans!
Go on now - go, walk out the door,
Don't you promise me 10 inches, then turn up with only 4!
Weren't you a brat to think I wouldn't find you out!?
Don't you know we're only joking when we say size don't count??!!
[Chorus]
I will survive! I will survive!
Cuz as long as I have batteries,
My sex life's gonna thrive!
I will always have good sex,
With a handful of latex!
I will survive! I will survive! Hey! Hey!
It took all my self control not to laugh out loud,
When I saw your little weiner standing tall and proud!
But to hell with your ego and to hell with all your needs,
Now I'm saving all my lovin' for a cordless multispeed!
[Chorus]
I will survive! I will survive!
Cuz as long as I have batteries,
My sex life's gonna thrive!
I will always have good sex,
With a handful of latex!
I will survive! I will survive! Hey! Hey!
Sensually Sadistic
Sadism is a term named after the Marquis de Sade who, according to his writings, took extreme pleasure in extreme cruelty taken to the outer limits. The New Webster's Encyclopedic Dictionary of the English Language defines sadism as: 1. sexual gratification gained by causing pain or degradation to others. 2. pleasure in being cruel. 3. extreme cruelty.
Sadism is a sexual perversion where one person gains gratification by inflicting physical or mental pain on others. It can also mean a delight in torment or excessive cruelty.
But what of the 'sadists' that can't be defined or described by the definition above. They can be kind and caring souls whose make sure that their parnter gains fulfilment, pleasure, gratification and satiation from their actions. I guess you could call them Sensual Sadistics.
That is how I see myself, as a Sensual Sadist. I can, and do, inflict pain in varying degrees dependant on the scene and mood, I love to humiliate, but there is more to it for me than that, a bigger picture, and it is for that reason I define myself as a Sensual Sadist. I care about the safe, sane, and consensual exploration of the desires and needs of both myself and my sub. While I will ways respect any limits, I will tease and push the boundaries by getting into their mind and working from there. Slowly over time new boundaries will evolve as the old one dissolve. I love use the ability of the mind to translate the pain, powerlessness, or humiliation into pleasure and satisfaction. I guess you could say that I exploit it by working the body and mind into a delicious opposition of each other. This happens slowly over time and with a deep understanding and knowledge of the submissive.
I believe that first and foremost comes my sub's gratification. Key word here being 'gratification,' not necessarily pleasure. However, most of the things I do has a 'pleasurable' element. Sometimes, needs are so strong, or the fantasies so extreme, they rely on me to be their check and balance through out the experience, for this I need their trust and they must have mine. I would never administer a mild or even playful spanking to an unwilling partner. My pleasure comes from their pleasure and enjoyment, if they are not getting off on what we are doing, well frankly, neither will I. Back to the Ying/Yang energies, coming from two very different angles to feed each other for one goal.
The very core of my Dominance is built upon and revolves around my sub having their needs met and in knowing they are satiated and fulfilled by the experience. I know some Dom/mes believe the sub should find gratification in receiving whatever treatment the Dom/mes may choose to deliver. Each their own, there are some subs out there who do find gratification in being treated with total disregard for their needs or tolerances, but that is not a style I find comfortable in, nor one in which I choose to play. That does not mean play wont be on the sadistic side, just that there is always an underlying current of care, nurturing, pushing and development.
I enjoy the mix of sensual and sadistic in my style of Domination, it works for me, and for my subs That if of course the key to it, finding a style that works for you. We are all different, there is not wrong or right style here, just the one that works for you. Find where you are comfortable and enjoy it, and you will find your style will change with time, just as a subs limits and boundaries do.
The wonderful cycle and growth that is BDSM.
Sadism is a sexual perversion where one person gains gratification by inflicting physical or mental pain on others. It can also mean a delight in torment or excessive cruelty.
But what of the 'sadists' that can't be defined or described by the definition above. They can be kind and caring souls whose make sure that their parnter gains fulfilment, pleasure, gratification and satiation from their actions. I guess you could call them Sensual Sadistics.
That is how I see myself, as a Sensual Sadist. I can, and do, inflict pain in varying degrees dependant on the scene and mood, I love to humiliate, but there is more to it for me than that, a bigger picture, and it is for that reason I define myself as a Sensual Sadist. I care about the safe, sane, and consensual exploration of the desires and needs of both myself and my sub. While I will ways respect any limits, I will tease and push the boundaries by getting into their mind and working from there. Slowly over time new boundaries will evolve as the old one dissolve. I love use the ability of the mind to translate the pain, powerlessness, or humiliation into pleasure and satisfaction. I guess you could say that I exploit it by working the body and mind into a delicious opposition of each other. This happens slowly over time and with a deep understanding and knowledge of the submissive.
I believe that first and foremost comes my sub's gratification. Key word here being 'gratification,' not necessarily pleasure. However, most of the things I do has a 'pleasurable' element. Sometimes, needs are so strong, or the fantasies so extreme, they rely on me to be their check and balance through out the experience, for this I need their trust and they must have mine. I would never administer a mild or even playful spanking to an unwilling partner. My pleasure comes from their pleasure and enjoyment, if they are not getting off on what we are doing, well frankly, neither will I. Back to the Ying/Yang energies, coming from two very different angles to feed each other for one goal.
The very core of my Dominance is built upon and revolves around my sub having their needs met and in knowing they are satiated and fulfilled by the experience. I know some Dom/mes believe the sub should find gratification in receiving whatever treatment the Dom/mes may choose to deliver. Each their own, there are some subs out there who do find gratification in being treated with total disregard for their needs or tolerances, but that is not a style I find comfortable in, nor one in which I choose to play. That does not mean play wont be on the sadistic side, just that there is always an underlying current of care, nurturing, pushing and development.
I enjoy the mix of sensual and sadistic in my style of Domination, it works for me, and for my subs That if of course the key to it, finding a style that works for you. We are all different, there is not wrong or right style here, just the one that works for you. Find where you are comfortable and enjoy it, and you will find your style will change with time, just as a subs limits and boundaries do.
The wonderful cycle and growth that is BDSM.
Monday, July 24, 2006
Dreamy Contemplation.
I was listening to day to Ronan Keatings - Life is a roller coaster.
It got me thinking about life. It really is like a roller coaster, and we do just have to hang on and ride it don't we? If you look back you will see the lows, the slow gradual climb back up, and those head spinning times when life's is rushing by in an exciting thrilling head over heals pace, until it settles back down.. coasting again until the next high, low, or corkscrew dizziness.
It also made me think of life, and how it shapes us. It is true as one door closes, another opens, just don't spend to much time looking at the closed door to miss the open one. It is also true we don't realise what we have until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Of course each part of the ride teaches us, mould and shapes us, so even when it a real low, its am important time for ones personal growth and development. I for one would not change on single thing in my past, because in changing that, I would change who and where I am today. Never live in the past but always learn from it, and move on a better person.
The secret to happiness is not in doing what one likes to do, but in liking what one has to do, not having what one wants, but wanting what one has. 'Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed.' - Storm Jameson
Yesterday is but a dream, and tomorrow is only a vision, but the today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope. To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were. Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more wisely. Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born.
People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centred. - Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. - Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. - Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. - Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. - Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest person with the smallest mind. - Think big anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. - Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack if you help them. - Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you might get kicked in the teeth. - Give the world the best you've got anyway.
And do it all knowing that you have done the best you can, and learnt and grown each step of the way!
I believe you can tell more about a person by what they says about others than you can by what others say about them.
As put so wonderfully by Roma Downey in the lyrics of Loving :-
To be in love, however briefly is to be truly, wonderfully alive.
Never to have loved is to leave the map of your soul uncharted, unexplored.
But be aware, before embarking on your heart’s voyage of discovery,
That there will be stormy seas, and troubled waters before you reach the island paradise of your dreams.
You cannot know the ecstasies of loving without having suffered its agonies.
And only when you have waited, cold and lonely, through the hours of night
Will you truly savour the morning sun, Feeling its warmth caress your body,
And before you fly like an eagle high and free in the endless blue sky
You must know what it is to be helpless, hopeless, lost and grounded.
But oh! be not afraid of love Be ready, be always ready
And when the spirit of true love comes to you
Embrace him, embrace him unashamedly.
Let him possess you, body and soul And he will take you places
You have never even imagined and you will feel,
In every fibre of your being, as you have never, ever felt before.Allow yourself to be happy and acknowledge that you are.
Cherish each and every moment, for they will never come again.
Time rushes by for lovers,
And the simple gesture of today is the treasured memory of tomorrow.
Give and receive freely, remember that you are blessed to be loved
But doubly blessed when you love in return.
How indeed can we realise full happiness with having shared sorrow, and maybe a sprinkling of regret in there too.
So...
Make sure you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Happiness lives for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Sunday, July 23, 2006
Saturday, July 22, 2006
Wants and Needs... Dreams view ;)
I believe a need is something required for subs to remain mentally and physically healthy and allow them to grow spiritually and emotionally. There are physical needs, water, food, air, to name three of them.
There are also emotional needs. According to 'Human Givens', these include: security, attention (to give and receive it), a sense of autonomy and control, being emotionally connected to others, being part of a wider community, friendship and intimacy, a sense of status within social groupings, a sense of competence and achievement.
When too many of these physical and emotional needs are not met, for whatever reason, unwittingly or otherwise, Dom/me or sub, we suffer considerable distress. And so do those around us!
I believe a submissive needs clear direction, firm goals, consistent rules, unambiguous orders. It takes a Dom/me with great presence of mind, intelligence, self-control, and self-understanding to provide that kind of environment.
Needs are the things necessary to survive one day to the next. Wants are those extra things an individual wants, both material and emotional.
In a D/s relationship, the Dom/me should determine which are which and ensure that all needs are filled. The Dom/me will choose which of the subs wants should be fulfilled based on knowledge of the sub and their plans for the sub's future. Of course, the Dom/me should also realize that some of the subs wants need to be fulfilled, too, to keep the sub happy. A happy sub is one that will serve you best. However, the sub must always realize that the Dom/me is acting in the subs best interests and for the subs welfare.
Needs should always be respected, and wants are left entirely to the Dom/me prerogative, simply put: Needs are essential. Wants are negotiable.
D/s is a discipline which is learned through a real need, initiated by a want, and adhered to by both submissive and Dom/me.
I once heard it put this way, and its something I believe. 'In a structured D/s relationship, there is a hierarchy of priorities: 1. The Dom/mes and subs needs, 2. The Dom/mes wants, 3. The subs wants.
I tend to see things in circular energy patterns, there is Yin/Yang connection between wants and needs, they have a different flavour of motivation but are intimately connected at an energy level, they feed each other, wants become needs, needs become wants and so it goes on.
The delicious cycle that is D/s
I believe there is an initial want in actual D/s, that being the need and want to submit, and later, if one is actually committed to an actual D/s relationship, the need to obey one's Dom/me. The "want" leads to the obedience, and therefore the surrender of power, and therefore, obedience and pleasing the Dom/me being the chief wants and the only "wants" they need to satisfy under a strict D/s relationship.
As I see it, a sub needs to feel safe, needs to know they are accepted for all that they are, needs to define their limits and have them respected, needs the Dom/me to be constant, to guide, teach, correct when needed so that they can learn from mistakes, to be able to express themselves, to have goals, to be nurtured, they need approval and reassurance, and to know they have pleased.
When they have found someone to fulfil the needs they will want to serve because someone paid attention to them, got to know them, played with them, pushed them and used them and they will serve the Dom/me with an openness and desire that becomes a want they need filled.
What are your needs and wants, do you know?
Dream`
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